Post # 1
Okey here the the deal My FI and I are pretty much on a tight buget and we are inviting friends and family( about 150) but sence the wedding will be at my mother in law’s she don’t want to be held responsiable sooooo…….. we figured if guest wanted to drink they could bring their own drinks……. now I kinda feel weird about that!! We don’t really have the money to have a wet bar!! any thoughts or ideas?
Post # 3
@Queenie30: I would think a BYOB wedding would be a little odd.
Also, you might want to check the laws in your area, even if people bring their own your MIL may still be held responsible since the alcohol consumption is happening on her property.
Post # 4
@Queenie30: I would rahter go with a dry reception than ask people to bring their own drinks. Unless it’s more of a backyard BBQ then yes, I would probably find that strange.
Also, as far as I know your aunt will be held responsible for anyone drinking on her property regardless of who the alcohol belongs to.
ETA: Lol, post twins.
Post # 5
I think it depends on how you are doing the rest of it – is it sort of a potluck? If you are having guests bring food, etc to share then I think it would be ok to include alcohol in the list of things to bring and share, but if you are providing everything else except alcohol, I would find that a bit rude.
Also, I have to agree with pp who have said that the home owner may still be legally liable even if they don’t provide the alcohol – I’d double check that.
Post # 6
Regardless of whether or not you supply your guests with alcohol, if they are drinking on her property then she is still liable. As for the BYO concept, while I don’t know if I would use the word “rude”, I would think it was odd if I were one of your guests. I am a huge proponent for alcohol at weddings but if you simply can’t afford it, I would suggest having a dry event rather than asking people to bring their own.
Post # 7
I agree you should check on the laws for your area, but more than likely if on private property the owner is held responsible even with BYOB. Unless your reception is a backyard BBQ I would not do have BYOB.
Post # 8
I’m not sure how formal you plan for your event to be, but if you want a more formal evernt I would go for a dry reception, rather than BYO. You can always have a nice selection of nonalcoholic beverages- infused waters, fresh lemonade, iced tea, virgin cocktails, etc. If you do want to serve alcohol but don’t want to people to overindulge you may want to consider having just the champagne or sparkling wine (to save $$) toast. You could also have a bottle of two of wine on each table so people could have a drink with dinner, but again it would limit intake. Good Luck!
Post # 9
Yes. Honestly. Either provide drinks or don’t have drinks. There are a ton of posts around about ways to do an inexpensive bar. OR you can just say, “no drinks” which is perfectly fine as well. You don’t want guests showing up to your wedding with handles of Jack and a 6-pack. It’s rude to you.
Post # 10
I agree that it doesnt matter who brings the alcohol the owner is still liable. Having said that I dont think its in good taste to ask people to bring their own. I’d prefer dry wedding over BYOB. I just think BYOB can be too disorganized
Post # 11
Have you considered just providing an “adult lemonade” and a “childrens lemonade”. Its super cheap to make and it provides something to adults who want an alcoholic beverage.
Not sure how many people are invited, but you can buy two big handles of vodka for about $35 dollars and lemonade mix for $5. So for $40 you can serve many many people.
Post # 12
@lefeymw: Now see I thought it would be rude too! cause I wanted to provide drinks but I kinda feel like my mother in laws wants a dry wedding however we all are boosers ( 😉 I like the idea of having one specialty drink!
Post # 13
I think if it’s casual enough, a BYOB wedding could work.
I think it’d be cool to provide the “adult lemonade” and also tell guests they can bring other drinks if they want.
Post # 14
I think if your MIL is hosting the event on her property, you need to agree to her terms. She says she doesn’t want to be responsible for drinking on her property, so that means there shouldn’t be any alcohol at all. Have interesting punch/drinks instead, then go out to the bar afterward to booze it up!
Post # 15
@DeathByDesign: well it’s kinda casual but I think that for the most part she is just worried about people driving home intoxicated!!! 😉 which i understand but I also want my guest to have a good time as well!!