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Is it rude to invite coworkers by themselves, without their significant others??

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    verosara    March 27, 2010   LA, California

    I really wanted a select number of co-workers to go to the wedding, but I couldn't afford to invite them and their SO, so I invited them as 1.  The single gals weren't offended, but the others claimed to say they "understand" but I saw one who seemed disappointed.  Was I rude?  I apoligized, but I did let them know that I wanted to be able to invite more co-workers.   

     
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    Amani    March 27, 2010  

    I think it depends.  Are your co-workers married?  I think if so, the SOs should probably be invited.  But if it's boyfriends/girlfriends, I wouldn't worry about it!

     
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    Sep_Queen    September 4, 2010  

    It would be rude if...They are married and or living together. IMO

     
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    msqthoney    April 10, 2010   Los Angeles, California

    I've been wondering about this too.  One of my coworkers keeps on bringing up the issue the that her boyfriend is not invited... She's not upset or anything but I can tell that she's truly bothered.  Now, I'm really second guessing myself if I did the right thing.

     
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    aspasia475    January 1, 2015  

    Business relationships and social relationships are two different things. It is perfectly correct to have very close business relationships with people who are not also social contacts, and you would not invite them to your social events. But, when you invite people to your wedding, they become social acquaintances and guests, whatever your other relationships with them might be. You cannot correctly differentiate between guests and make some "first class" guests and others "second class" guests.

     

    If you are inviting all of your guests together with their date, then you do that for all your guests. And you must invite married -- including of course those who are living together as if married--and engaged couples as couples. That is one of the basic social standards.

     
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    eeniebeans    October 9, 2010   Baltimore

    I am inviting less co workers because I want the invited ones to be able to bring a guest.

     

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