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We didn't really register either. I made a registry at Crate and Barrel in case some one really wanted to get us something tangible but it literally consists of about 10 random things. We registered for things we could use and easily transport such as dish towels, a melon baller, a whoopie pie cookbook and pan and a cup cake tray. Nothing large, heavy or glass as we will need to travel with it. Only one person actually asked me thus far. I don't think it is rude but i understand that some people depend on registries, especially if they don't know you so well.
I don't think it's rude, but maybe you could register at just one store, just in case some people aren't sure what to get you.
You can register online on alot of websites, makes it really easy!
We're not registered anywhere and will not be registering, so, no, I don't think it's rude.
I understand that you don't need a lot; both my fiance and I acquired a lot of nice stuff for our respective apartments during college and actually had duplicate toasters, dishes, etc. by the time we moved in together. That said, I think you should make a registry at one store at the very least so you don't get a bunch of figurines and frames- lol! Take some time to think about your stuff and what you would like to upgrade. Sure, you might have a set of silverware, but maybe you would like a new set, for example.
If you really don't want to register, you can politely put on your invitations or your wedding website that the presence of your guests is enough of a present. Otherwise they will still get you something. You could also include a charity you would rather them give donations to in your name.
We didnt want to register but we did anyway because I knew there would be some people who didnt want to give $ and I didnt want random crap.
Absolutely NOT rude. I've been to plenty of weddings where people did not have a registry.
I think it's rude to register for things knowing you are going to return them. Now, THAT would be rude!
@brideatbeach:
"If you really don't want to register, you can politely put on your invitations or your wedding website that the presence of your guests is enough of a present."
I believe etiquette states that you NEVER refer to gifts or registries on your invitations.
I don't think it's rude not to register...but for the sake of convenience, my advice would be to set up even just a small registry on one of the WeddingChannel.com partners (Bed Bath, Macys, Pottery Barn etc.) It is almost inevitable that a lot of your guests will ask about it in the weeks leading up to your wedding when you have a ton of other items to deal with. This is especially true if you're having a lot of traditional/older family-friend type of guests. So trust me, it is just easier for everyone involved to have a registry.
It's your wedding and one of the few times people truly WANT to give you a gift! :) enjoy it!
I agree with the other that there will be people who will want to give you a tangible gift and for their convenience and yours I would set up a small registry. But if you have a small registry, or non at all, I would say you should skip having a bridal shower.
People who are dead-set on buying an actual gift might think it's rude. Usually those are the older women who are more old fashioned and don't understand that people our age get married a lot older and have plenty of 'stuff' and just need $ for a down payment.
Our friends who were recently married didn't register. We didnt' think it was rude, we would have given them $ either way. But DH's Mom (who is close to the groom) was at a total loss because she would never DREAM of giving $ as a gift, she was absolutely mortified.
I don't think it's rude, but I do think you should prepare yourself for a lot of random "Precious Moments" type stuff. I think a lot of the "older" generation isn't away that NOT registering is a slight request for cash, so they'll want to show up with SOMETHING in hand.
We weren't planning on registering either as I can't think of anything we need for our home.... but will probably do a small one at one store so that people have the option (and also to avoid the "Where are you registered????" questions before the wedding!)
I wouldn't say it is rude but people are accustomed to buying presents for a wedding. I think it leaves them a little lost to try and figure out what you want on their own if you do not give them guidance. I, for one, would not think of attending a wedding without buying a present for the couple, it's just what you do....I thought. With that said we needed nothing either. We opted for a honeymoon registry and have gotten very positive responses to it. Additionally, one of my very good friends convinced me that at the bridal shower people actually want to see you open things. For that purpose I made registries at a few stores but that info will not be on the wedding website only the shower invitations.
Nope, not rude. Personally, I'm looking forward to any tangible gifts that are off registry - I think it'll be nice/more meaningful.
Not rude but be prepared for a ton of gifts you don't want and can't return if you don't register. Even if you don't feel you need anything (and you absolutely don't want to replace/upgrade anything you already have), guests still want to buy you something as many people do not give cash gifts, and they don't know what you want unless you have a registry. Surely there are fun entertainment/hobby type things you'd like: camping or outdoor gear if you are into that, items related to grilling, etc. Even board games, dvds, and similar entertainment stuff is perfectly ok.
I don't think it's rude at all!
I do think that you're going to wind up with a lot of money (yay!) and a lot of gifts you don't want. Friends of mine set up a registry on myresitry.com and they added a few kitchen items that you could buy at Target, Macy's, etc. They also included some honeymoon items (dinner at a nice restaurant, sunset cruise, etc). They weren't registered for much, but it gave their guests a go-to just in case.
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Is it rude not to register? We've decided not to, since we don't really need anything and many of our guests are travelling to attend, so we don't expect them to give us gifts on top of the cost of attending.
A friend's reaction to this news the other day was definitely an unhappy or unimpressed one (though he didn't say much, he didn't have to), which has left me wondering if we're being rude in not registering?
I'd love some feedback!