(Closed) is it rude to refer to fiance as boyfriend?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Anna56:  I find it annoying too..but I just ignore it.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Honestly, I would just let it go. Not everyone is going to remember that you are engaged, you engagement doesn’t mean as much to anyone else as it does to you. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Anna56:  Just correct them.  He’s not your boyfriend – he’s your FI.  Nothing wrong with pointing out the error.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Normally when someone says something like that, I’ll correct it when I answer their question. Ex: “How’s your boyfriend?” “My fiance is doing great!” or something like that.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Hmm, I can see how acquaintances would forget and say boyfriend, but I would not be pleased if a therapist made this mistake. Would make me think they are not really listening or not giving me their full attention. Hm.

 

Post # 8
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Busy bee

@Anna56:  I called my DH ‘boyfriend’ in conversations the entire time we were engaged.  I had a ring, people figured it out.  I find the word a bit pretentious.  why does this upset you?

 

Post # 9
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280 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I just corrected them, nicely and let it go. unless it was my mom who for the longest time kept calling DH (then FI) my BF. She wasn’t trying to be rude or downgrade our relationship, she was just used to him being BF. We dated for 8 years, I get it’s a hard habit to break, but that didn’t stop me from giving her grief over it.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Maybe they haven’t gotten used to it yet. I don’t think they will be doing it on purpose. I would just ignore it or if it really bothers you politely correct them. 

I still call my FI boyfriend and he calls me girlfriend just because that’s what we’re used to. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee

@edgebee:  I’m the same way. He is my boyfriend until we get married. The word “fiance” kinda makes me cringe.

Post # 12
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272 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Before I got engaged, I never used the word fiance to refer to anyone because I thought it sounded “funny.”  Like I always felt like I was pronouncing it wrong.  Now I’ve figured it out (since I’ve been engaged for 1.5 years now) and finally feel comfortable enough to use the word.  I wouldn’t infer any disrespectful intent–it’s an awkward word and kind of a mouthful!

Post # 13
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279 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I use the word “boyfriend” and “fiance” interchangably. 

Sometimes people correct me… “My boyfriend and I went to blah blah…” “Don’t you mean your FIANCE?”… and I find that really rude and awkward. I actually had to start intentionally using the word “fiance” because one of my managers at work was having a serious shit fit about it. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Its not that big of a deal. I still call my FI boyfriend all the time, we know that were getting married its just a silly title. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Anna56:  It sounds like you’re trying to find a reason to be offended. Let it go!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Sometimes FI will slip up and call me his girlfriend – he feels really bad about it but I just laugh. 

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