Is it rude to tell guests we're using their gift for our honeymoon?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

i don’t think it’s rude. if they wanted you to buy something for your home they could’ve/would’ve given you a gift card, but since they gave you cash, it’s up to you to spend it however you want.

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I don’t think it’s rude at all, in fact I would prefer being told what the money is going to be used for. It makes me feel like I am actually giving them something useful and what they want. Otherwise they could just use it for groceries lol. FI and I will be telling guests that cash from our wishing well is going towards a deposit for a house. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

kb7:  I think it’s fine! Id love knowing my cash gift helped make some part of the couples honeymoon even more special 🙂 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May

I don’t see anything wrong with it. In fact it would let me know as a guest that the money was well received and useful ( not just gas money). Maybe throw in a neat honeymoon snap shot as well. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse

kb7:  nope, once someone has given you a gift it is up to you how to use it. So whether it goes to a house, honeymoon, groceries, debt, or a new tattoo doesn’t matter. It’s yours to do with as you please, however in your thank you note I would indicate what it went to. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

I’d be happy to know my gift contributed to the couple’s dream honeymoon.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I think that’s perfectly fine. Putting in a honeymoon shot (if you’re going right away) would be nice too.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

For our thank you notes, I varied what I wrote depending on the guest. For most I wrote “Thanks for your gift. It really helped make our honeymoon wonderful!” For some I wrote about how I will use the gift for badly needed kitchen supplies. I tended to use the kitchen thank yous for the older more traditional guests, I guess. But really, I just assumed which one they would appreciate more and wrote the note accordingly.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

My mom received a thank you card from a bridal shower she attended. It had mentioned the gift (which was cash) tha my mother provided will be used toward towards the couple’s honeymoon. Something along the lines of “we will think of you when we sit at the beach drinking our margarita’s ” or something like that. And no, we did not find that to be rude at all. 🙂

Post # 12
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Helper bee

Nope, not rude at all.  Some people like to know what their gift went towards, anyways.

Post # 13
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Busy bee

I don’t see why you have to tell them anything. We just thanked our guests for their gifts and said something along the lines of it being helpful as we start this new journey. Generic, yes, but it got the job done. When I gift a couple with money at their wedding, they could use it for hookers and blow for all I care. Once it leaves my hands, it’s their money to do with as they please and it really doesn’t matter to me how it’s spent. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

kb7:  Hell no. I’d be happy that you guys like my gift! Have a great honeymoon!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN

kb7:  The first time I got married that is exatly what we did. I do not think it is rude at all. Once it is given, it is your money to do whatever you want with. I also agree with PP, if they wanted you to have something speific for your home, they would have given it to you.

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