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The first one makes more sense, and I think it's totally fine to use this--they're not rude, just making it clear! Just letting you know--for the second to be gramatically correct with the "accepts/declines" you'd have to have two: "accept/decline" and "accepts/declines" because obviously you are inviting one or two people. And it might be confusing to some who just check off the accept/decline if they're supposed to put a number there instead (like one can go and one can't).
Good luck! And remember, be polite but firm with anyone who tries to RSVP with more!!!
Just be prepared that if they ignored the inner envelopes at your cousin's wedding, they'd probably ignore this, too. Some people just feel like kids should come to family weddings, and they'll write them in. You'll just have to be firm about responding to them and letting them know that you cannot accommodate children. Good luck!
First of all, I think it is SO rude of people to try to bring along dates/kids who were not invited! If an invitation is addressed to Mr. & Mrs. John Smith, it should be clear that the 5 Smith cherubs aren't invited... I've never seen a response card address this issue head-on, as your cards do, and I hope it helps you get the message across to your guests. Of the two possible ways of wording, I prefer the second one. Good luck!
Thanks so much for the advice, hive!!
I like the first one best and think that's what I'll use.
My cousin who had this happen to her last year, really wanted those relatives with children to attend the wedding and that's why she ended up being so accomodating.
I know for a fact that my mother isn't going to provide any sort of special accomodations for children and that she is willing to call anyone who write's in additional guests on their rsvp card and I will do the same.
I agree with cinemaparadiso , there needs to be a line for declining the inviitation. And i really think its a nice/tactful way of getting across who is/isnt invited. And honestly, i hope your family talks to one another, realizes that OTHERS kids werent invited so that they will understand you mean adults only. But def the first one is good.
You are brave! Stay tough because I'm sure it won't be easy!
Sounds like a good way to avoid uninvited guests. I think we'll copy you. Thanks
In the first one, you are mentioning twice how many seats have been reserved. That might be a bit of overkill. I prefer the second one myself. If you are writing in the names on the response card, however, I think that is enough. As a prior poster said, if they will ignore the names on the inner envelope and everything else, they probably won't let you know that they are planning on towing Jr. along.
i like the second one - we have the same issue with our wedding and having similar wording on our response cards so lemme know how it turns out for you!!!! :)
Do you think that this is better way to format/word this? Is everything grammatically correct?
I am really quite exhausted but I want to email the invitation lady tonight before I go to bed.
The favour of your reply is requested on or before March 1, 2010
We have reserved ____ seat(s) in your honour
___ of ___ guest(s) will attend
_________________________________________________ (fill in the name here)
____ Accept(s) with pleasure
____ Decline(s) with regrets
__________________________________________ (fill in the name here)
____ Accept(s) with pleasure
____ Decline(s) with regrets
This is what our RSVP cards look like. We felt the need to define the exact # of guests who we are intending to invite.
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@ddubzz - I LOVE your response card!!! It's absolutely gorgeous!!!
Did you have your calligrapher fill in the names of the guests who were invited?
Thanks @NeliBee! :)
No, we didn't hire a calligrapher so we're expecting our guests to just handwrite their names onto the RSVPs. We're hoping the combination of addressees on the envelope and the "we have reserved ____ in your honor" line (I will handwrite those #s myself) will clue them in that ONLY THESE PEOPLE ARE INVITED. Haha! I totally feel your pain! I have tons of cousins who have tons of kids! Even though I love them, I can't possibly afford to have them all attend the wedding! Good luck... let us know what you decide to do.
I don't think either of the wordings is rude, they sound classy and very specific! I hadn't thought of having the calligrapher write in the guests' names on the RSVP card, that would be an even more direct way of imparting that kids are not welcome. Good idea, albeit expensive if you have a lot of invites.
I don't think it's rude at all! I'm going to have to do something similar because our family will try to bring their TERRIBLE kids. No dice on that!
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We are having an adult only wedding and will not be allowing our singles guests to bring dates. My mom has told all of our relatives that we are having an kid-free wedding but some of my relatives don't consider their teens or tweens to be kids and my mother hasn't done the best job in telling them that their children are not invited to the wedding.
I ordered my invitations on Friday and am waiting for the proofs to come back because I want to use either one of these as the wording for my response cards:
The favour of your reply is requested on or before March 1, 2010.
We have reserved _____ seat(s) in your honour.
___________________________________________________ (line for guests name)
___ of ___ guest(s) will attend
OR I'll use
The favour of your reply is requested on or before March 1, 2010.
We have reserved _____ seat(s) in your honour.
_________________________________________ (line for guests name)
___ Accepts with pleasure
___ Declines with regrets
We're planning to have the calligrapher write in the names of the guests who are invited to the wedding along along with the number of seats that we are saving in their honor - I know that it's not the right thing to etiquette wise but this will make it extra clear to my family that their children aren't invited to the wedding. Do you think it's a bit abrupt? Which of the two do you think sounds a bit nicer?
Most of my relatives know that the names listed on the inner envelope are the names of the guests who are invited to the wedding but I know in the case of my cousin's wedding a couple of years ago, people just ignored that and she had to rent out a separate area to accomodate the relatives who insisted on bringing their children and this isn't something that we want to do.
Has any one else used wording like this for their response cards? How did your guests react?