Post # 1
DH and I recently got married, and since I’m 34 and we would ideally like more than one child, we started TTC right away. Four months later, it happened! 🙂 I don’t have my first appt until I’m 11 weeks, in mid December. Do you think it’s ok to announce at Christmas with everyone there? I don’t want people to think I want all the attention, or that I am insensitive to others. My SIL has been trying for over two years and hasn’t had 2 miscarriages. We would tell them in advance (over the phone so she didn’t have to hide tears). I just dnn’t want to be a jerk. Any advice? Thanks 🙂
Post # 3
I don’t think it’s selfish at all. I think it’s a great time to do it because everyone will be together (or at least in my family they are) and you won’t be stealing someone else’s limelight (like at a wedding).
Post # 4
Not selfish at all. You are pregnant – you have reason to celebrate! I think it’s great that you plan to call your SIL in advance; you hardly seem like a selfish person 🙂 Congratulations, by the way!
Post # 5
Announcing that you are pregnant at Christmas is fine. I think contacting your SIL ahead of time is alsofine, she may well be happy for you eventhough they are still trying. I’m not sure I’d tell her over the phone, I’d tell her in person if it were me, but you know her best.
Post # 6
I don’t think it is selfish. You will definitely be at the point that most people are announcing pregnancies and there are many cute Chritmas announcement ideas. That being said, I definitely agree that you need to tell your SIL first. Both of my SILs announced pregnancies while we were ttc (and struggling) and if I had had to hear that at a family gathering it wouldn’t have ended well.
Post # 7
Op, I think xmas is a perfect time. I also like the plan to tell SIL in advance. Also, congrats on the LO!
Post # 8
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I think it’s fine, but if you are worried, why not announce either Christmas eve or later in the day on Christmas?
Post # 9
I don’t think it’s selfish at all! It’s not like it’s a birthday party where you would be “stealing the spotlight.” Congrats!
Post # 10
I would definitely do it on Cristmas! Just let SIL know the week before so she’s not blindsided in front of family
Post # 11
@AlwaysSunny: ahem, it’s Jesus’ birthday party… kidding!
i say go for it!
Post # 12
@mamadingdong: Haha I was about to say the same thing about Jesus.
I agree with everyone that it’s not selfish at all. Go for it, and celebrate! Congrats to you by the way!
Post # 13
@pittgirl4: I think it would add to the happiness and excitement of the holiday season! Congrats:)
Post # 14
Of course it isn’t selfish. You will be announcing it eventually anyway, so why not do it when you have all of your family there? I think it is very thoughtful of you to call your SIL first. I know I would appreciate it.
Post # 15
@mamadingdong: Hahaha you beat me to it, I was going to say something about baby Jesus too! 🙂
@pittgirl4: I don’t think it’s selfish at all, it’s perfect – one more thing to celebrate and be happy about. Congratulations! 🙂
Post # 16
I think that’s a good time to announce it 🙂