Is it strange that I'm just not super excited?

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

 When I have really big things going on, sometimes I feel like I’m too full of varied emotions to feel any one emotion in particular. Examples, on the plane as I left to study abroad for a semester, the night before my wedding. I definitely had thought about those things a great deal but when it came down to it I was just kind of numb. Feeling it all at once kind of left me non-feeling. I’m not describing it very well but when I have a major life event it seems there are so many competing thoughts or emotions going on that no one thing surfaces, even excitement. Maybe you’re like me. Or maybe you will be super excited when it sinks in fully. Best wishes!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

No it’s not weird. I even had this discussion with my OB. I dont know why, but there is SO MUCH pressure on pregnant women to be happy glowy bouncy people who JUST CAN’T WAIT to mee their babies at all times. That’s just not reality. I started to feel so much pressure when people were asking me nonstop aren’t you so excited!? And I just was like I guess? It doesn’t feel real?? It really made me feel bad like I was feeling something wrong. But it’s ok to not be hyperactive about it all the time! 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

AnonymousCupcake:  I’ve never been pregnant, but this is exactly how I felt before the wedding. I felt like I was a terrible bride bc I wasn’t excited. I felt like I was putting on a work party or something and it was all business.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

AnonymousCupcake:  not strange at all! I was too aware of the risk of a miscarriage to get excited at first. Now, at 23 weeks, I feel alternately bored by pregnancy, annoyed, over it, excited, happy, loving towards the baby, apathetic, nervous, wishing we’d waited longer, impatient to meet the baby, and so on. It’s normal! sometimes I feel weird that I don’t have the nursery all set up and a closet full of adorable baby clothes….we haven’t bought a single thing yet.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I felt that way too, and felt I had to fake it in case people thought I was a horrible person.  I wasnt even excited when we found out what we were having.  It probably took me until month 5 or 6 to finally start getting excited because that’s when I started doing the tangible prep stuff.  Now I’m excited and nervous, but not apathetic and annoyed like I used to be.

Post # 8
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Worker bee

 

AnonymousCupcake:  Wow, happy to know I am not alone in this! I was waiting for a pregnancy and then it appened quickly that I expected and here I am with no symptoms for the moment, just annoyed that I can’t eat what I want. We didn’t tell anyone yet, but I’ll have to fake it too because I don’t feel that pure bliss that is expected of me. I hope my apathy will eventually go away?

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

AnonymousCupcake:  I’ve always thought I was rather od in that way, so I’m glad someone else can relate! I know for example that my mom got annoyed when I wasn’t literally jumping up and down in excitement about my wedding.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

you are totally not alone. Early pregnancy is hard to get excited over (at least for me). I was super excited my first pregnancy, but now with my second, I am really disappointed with how un excited I am (15 weeks).

I think it’s probably because I feel like crap still…and I am scared of having two kids. This was a planned pregnancy, and I am most definitely happy, but I haven’t bought a single thing yet, I haven’t pinned down names, and I am just tired. lol

 

It’s 100% normal. I know I will get much more excited as I feel baby move and whatnot..but for now, it feels like time is inching along..

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

AnonymousCupcake:  I completely understand.  At 39 weeks, I have yet get excited about my baby.  I also have yet to feel any real bond with him/her and I like it that way!    I think the whole process is very overwhelming.  I’m sure once she/he arrives, I’ll be over the moon excited, but for now I just can’t wait have my body back and drink some wine!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

I’m 9 weeks pregnant and nobody knows. They’re finding out in a few weeks (after our first appointment), and honestly, I feel as you do: I don’t want to be bothered about it. I enjoy still having conversations where I’m  “CookieCreamCakes,” and not “CookieCreamCakes, the grandbaby’s vessel.”

Since I haven’t been into my first appointment yet, I’ve convinced myself to not get too excited. Speaking only for myself, I’m so non-plused that if they told me the baby’s heart wasn’t beating, I don’t feel that I would be too upset. I will be pleasantly surprised if everything’s going well. It’s an irrational response, but one I picked up along the way of subfertility/infertility. Just a general assumption that things don’t always work out.

I figured I’d be going crazy when I got a positive test. I was happy, but not crazy-wild like some folks. I think it’s totally normal early on.

 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

AnonymousCupcake:  I’m the same way. I’m thrilled to be pregnant but when people are bouncy and squee-ing like maniacs when they find out I am, I smile politely but I don’t feel THAT excited. I feel pretty much like myself to be honest at 25 weeks… granted a larger version of myself with an added 15lbs, who wants burritos and Rita’s mango Italian ice, but I still feel like I did before pregnancy. Most days its like I forget I’m pregnant, and just go through my normal routine. It’s almost like me planning my wedding all over again; people would seem to be more excited for it than I was. I just found planning to be overwhelming and time consuming, much like pregnancy in a sense, but with the exception that its your BODY your giving up temporarily as well as your sanity ;-p

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