Post # 1
Is it stupid to have a big party (think reception minus ALL reception traditions like specific dances, cutting the cake, having a bridal party etc). 1.5 years after we got married?
We got married in a private cerony with just us, no family or friends for many reasons including finances at the time, and being far too busy with nursing school but needing insurance by being married at that specific time etc.
I’m not asking if it’s stupid for financial reasons because we’re financially secure and this is something we are comfortable with doing.
Our idea was to do this as a chance for all of our families to meet, for us to be able to celebrate us, for our kids to have something memorable (this was a second marriage). Our families don’t know each other and haven’t really met other than the moms. Our family lives 2 hours away from us and they live 2 hours from each other also.
I will not be wearing a wedding dress or trying to “re-create ” anything like a wedding. It will be a nice party (gifts not wanted, and this is conveyed to guests) For people to come together and eat free food, free open bar and enjoy a live band.
Would you turn your nose at this? Would you find it odd or disapprove of it?
Here’s an idea for an invite:
Post # 3
I’d be so pleased if I had a friend/family member like you who got married without a party decide to plan one after all…even if it was years later. I would accept the invite without a doubt and look forward to finally celebrating your marriage and getting chance to meet your loved ones.
Like you said, as long as you’re not re-creating a wedding like wearing a bridal gown, or doing it for the wrong reasons (gifts etc) I would see it as an exciting generous event : )
Post # 4
They way you’re going about it, I think it’s a great idea and sounds like fun.
Now if you were going to wear a big white dress, expected gifts, and such then I might think it’s a bit odd so long out.
Post # 5
@jpbee: Lol the first time I read it I thought you said “I would be so pissed” and I was like, what, why be angry? Lol.
Thanks for the response.
Post # 6
@aquaelle: I think it’d be great! Just call it something like a cocktail party or a BBQ (whatever your style) and then have things like like photos from your wedding (if you have any) or a framed copy of your vows at the desert table or something.
If you DON’T want gifts and you’re worried people will think they are expected to bring just don’t be specific about what the party is really for and then when they show up let them know you’re celebrating your marriage!
Post # 7
@ValerieBee03: We wrote at the bottom of the invitations “Drinks, food and bad dance moves, bring only your appetite and dancing shoes”
It’s informally worded so that people get that it’s a fun event and not some overly formal plated event. We are doing a BBQ buffet, just at a fun and neat venue.
Image I found as someone had it set up for a party:
Post # 8
i think its totally fine…. i think people get a little wierd about calling it a ‘wedding’
but if its a bbq, or christmas party, or anniversary party or housewarming or basically anything but a weddingits fine
Post # 9
@aquaelle: I love it! Hell, I would come and I don’t even know you 😉
Post # 10
@ValerieBee03: I’ll send an invite your way
Post # 11
I love the venue! It’s really pretty 🙂
Your event sounds great. The problem usually comes in when people want to re-create a wedding with a big white dress, ceremony, cake cutting, gifts, etc. when they are already married. You aren’t doing that, you are providing a fun party for your families to mingle. Have fun!
Post # 12
- Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016
I don’t think it’s weird at all! I think what you wrote at the bottom of the invitations is great (:
Post # 13
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
I think it’s a great idea! That venue looks amazing too!!
Post # 14
Nothing wrong with it at all. My brother and his wife were married a year before their “reception”. Everyone treated it like it was a normal wedding actually.
Post # 15
This style of after wedding reception is totally fine. Dressing up like a “bride and groom”, re-enacting a ceremony, registering etc is not ok with me. They way you are going about it is much more appropriate and I would absolutely attend.
Post # 16
Your story sounds very similar to ours and this is exactly what we are doing 🙂