Post # 1
I am inviting about 9-10 coworkers to my wedding. Is it tacky to hand deliver a Save the Date or Invitation to them at work or by leaving it in their in-bin?
I am not sure what the etiquette is. I would LOVE to save $5 in stamps, but I am not sure if it rude to hand deliver in the office when other people who aren’t invited could see it.
If I do it discretely, would it be ok though?
Post # 3
You’ll need their address for thank you’s – so you might as well just ask them for their address and mail them, like all the others. It’s not work the $ you are saving in postage, IMO.
Some people don’t mind to be handed an invite while others prefer them in the mail. You’ll never really know which of your co-workers falls into which category (unless you ask/they tell you) – which I wouldn’t recommend.
Post # 4
Hmmm I think you should mail them if only to avoid the invites getting talked about/gushed over at work in front of people who are not invited.
Post # 5
I would leave them in the in-bin to save $$.
Post # 6
It kind of reminds me of elementary school when someone would hand out invites to a birthday party not everyone was invited to. I’d say better to mail them.
Post # 7
Since you are not inviting everyone, I think it’ll be better to mail it.
Post # 8
My old boss gave out invites in the office, I didn’t find it rude. Then again, I wasn’t one of those people not invited. I think as long as you do it when others can’t see, it’s fine and a good way to save a little money. It all adds up!
Post # 9
Opinions seem to be about split on this. Hmmmm. I will have to ponder this a little bit more!
Post # 10
I think the elementary school comment is accurate. You wouldn’t want people who really wanted to be invited who weren’t being all upset because they weren’t handed one with everyone else. Its not that its tacky or rude even just it could possibly make someone sad to know they weren’t invited.
Post # 12
ive been handed invites from co workers while at work and i didnt find it rude – we are all adults working in a professional environment, it doesnt take much to be respectful of others and do it quitely without drawing attention to those that didnt get an invite
Post # 13
If you hand them out at work, maybe mention you weren’t able to invite everyone so you’d appreciate if they didn’t talk about it to everyone.
Post # 14
I think hand delivering is totally fine, EXCEPT in situations like this where other people could see. Hand deliver in private, or mail them.
Post # 15
I think its fine to hand them out. I’m might do that at the family gathering around Christmas. If not, I will be getting all of their addresses, lol.
Post # 16
Yeah…I’m having a Destination Wedding in Mexico – so it’s not like that many people could come anyway. I’m only inviting my close friends who I hang out with outside of work, who I know might actually spend the money and take the vacation time to come.
If it was a local wedding, I might think twice about, but I think since it is a DW even if some other co-workers see they would understand I am only inviting close friends who have expressed an interest in going anyway?