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Giving guests a choice is always a good thing. I think it lets people choose gifts that may feel more personal instead of having to buy you the coffee maker or spatula as the last things left on your registry. I don't think it will offend guests, and if it works for you, I say go for it.
Oh my! It is soooooo NOT tacky to have 2 registries. We're having a HUGE wedding and have pretty varied interests...so we're registered at 4 places. Four is bordering on ridiculous, but it hasn't offended anyone. I think it is good for them to have a choice, because face it...some people would rather upgrade your hotel room than give you a china place setting.
Yeah, the more gift options the better. We went to a wedding once and the couple had hardly registered for anything and we waited until the last minute to buy a gift. All that was left on their list was the most expensive thing (hundreds of dollars) or a spatula. I'll just leave it at that. I think 2 registries is fine to give your guests options.
i dont think its a big deal...lots of people have multiple registries at different stores. One of your "stores" is just for your honeymoon.
That being said, please dont phrase it as "we're not expecting gifts" and then list the registries. its always off-putting for me when someone says, please dont bring gifts and then lists all the places they are registered.
Thanks guys - I also should mention that our wedding is small with only 60 people! I think this also plays into me feeling uncomfortable about it!
I don't think it's tacky to have two either but I'm not a fan of a honeymoon registry. That's just my personal opinion and I mean no harm by it. I just don't like it.
That being said, I think we're planning on registering at 3 places.
@FMM - I would never write that on my website - I am including registries as a choice for guests if they choose to give us a gift!
I have three. We did a higher range (Macys), a mid range and a lower range. The high and low range places always have sales/coupons/early bird power hour thingies. The mid range didn't, but their prices were reasonable just the same (Crate and Barrel).
We wanted to give people a choice and options.
Not at all! We have 4 registries!
@stephinPA - may I ask why you don't like honeymoon registries?
We're registered in 3 places currently but we've only listed two on our website because we feel weird about being listed so many places. That said, every wedding I have been to in the last 3 years has had 3-6(!) places on their website where they were registered. I liked having a choice about where to go to get their presents (what place had coupons/sales/stores nearby) and I learned a bit about my friends' tastes (Who knew my super citified friends LOVE to go camping and kayaking? Not me!) I say two places is fine, especially since one is a honeymoon registry.
Our registries are Amazon(listed on our websites), WishingWell (on our website. Like a honeymoon registry, but larger?), and Crate & Barrel (we were lured in with promises of drinks, food, and presents! They are not listed, but my FMIL thinks we ought to). We're also thinking of registering at REI (an outdoor store) because none of the others really have the tents and camping gear we'd like to take on our honeymoon (and camping trip).
@FutureMM - You know, I don't have a solid answer for you. For some reason it really just rubs me the wrong way. I've been a guest of weddings where the bride and groom did do this and to me, it just makes me feel like the couple is really pushing the envelope..and in a greedy way. I know that is not your intent and again, FMM, I mean no harm at all. This is just something that I would never do.
@stephinPA - I totally appreciate your response and in no way take offense to your opinion. I have strong opinions also and I know they may offend some people. I was just curious as to your reasoning as I really do not want to offend my guests in anyway!
Do you prefer when there is a gift registry as well? Or do you dislike them no matter what?
@FutureMrs.Martin: I'm going to chime in with StephinPA that I'm not the biggest fan of honeymoon registries either, but if there was another choice, I would be perfectly fine with that. So I think a honeymoon and gift registry is fine.
Personally, we're going to register at two different places, so I don't think this is tacky at all.
Two places is totally fine - that's actually a low number given that I've seen 5 and 6 places on registries lately. I feel like it's better to give your guests more options.
I also don't like Honeymoon registries and if there is a choice between that and an actual store, I'll always just go the store route.
I really don't like honeymoon registries and tend to agree with alot of people they come across as rude. For the same reason you wouldn't have a wedding or anything else outside your means. I'd rather be able to choose between a variety of actual stores, given the choice and most of your guests will too as they will want to give you tangible gifts. It is ok to register for fun non-essentials that you use in your household. They don't have to be kitchen appliances or bedding. What are your hobbies and interests that you share? If you both like sports or camping, register at a sporting goods store. If you like movies, music and board games, register for those. Pick something that fits you as a couple. But most people have at least 2 registries for actual stores since maybe one store may be regional and not everyone is able to shop there or else there may be something at one store you want that isn't found at a different store.
We're having three. We'll be using Honeyfund, Macy's, and Crate and Barrel. We know that not everyone is going to be comfortable with the idea of a honeymoon registry, so we're providing the other two options for that reason. :)
Looking at these boards I'm starting to think that 2 registries for 200 guests (at my wedding) is not enough. But a wedding and a honeymoon registry for a smaller wedding does not seem tacky to me at all!
It gives the guest an option to either buy a present or just give money but know that it is going somewhere (for the honeymoon).
Go for it!!
I have 60 people, and 3 registries! It was just what worked for us.
I think honeymoon registries are really great for couples who have already been living together and don't really need any new stuff. It's not like they're outright asking people for money or to pay for part of the wedding. And the sites usually have it set up to where people can believe they are paying for a spa treatment or dinner, or horseback riding or whatver (even though you usually just get cash). A lot of couples really just enjoy travel and more adventurous pursuits rather than blenders and spatulas.
I don't think they are tacky or rude at all. Plus since you're doing a traditional registry too, all of your guests who aren't comfortable with honeymoon registries have an option. 
So everyone will be happy!
I think that giving them a choice is the way to go...that way there's something for everyone. :)
Not at all!!!
I think that especially because one of your registries will be a honeymoon one it is a GOOD thing to have another choice for guests since not all people will be comfortable with a honeymoon registry. I am young (23) and still prefer to buy pots and pans...so just think about your older/less techy relatives ;)
enjoy both and all they have to offer!
I hope not because that is what we have!
We actually are doing the exact same thing. We have a honemoon registry with travelersjoy.com and a household registry with Crate and Barrel. We would have prefered to only have the honeymoon registry as we have lived together for many years, but as the previous posters pointed out, some guests may be put off by the honeymoon registry. We have received good feedback from the guests that have looked at our website and registries. They have really liked having the option.
we actually dont need any physical gifts since FH and i have been living together and basically have 2 sets of everything and not enough room to store what we already have. so we originally just registered at rainfall of envelopes for our "home fund" which we are using as a fund to help us reach our goal of purchasing a house and the funds there will also help furnish it when we buy it. (so kinda like gift certificates for future housewears etc) but then crate and barrell had a contest that you had to register to enter for it, so we registered there. we also put like 5-10 items on bed bath and beyond for folks who arent near a crate and barrel and dont like the rainfall of envelopes...
I'm also not a fan of the honeymoon registry for the same reasons as people mentioned. This is just my personal opinion, but I don't think gifts should be figured in as part of the wedding budget. If someone can't afford a honeymoon without other people's contributions, then maybe it's something that should be post-poned until after the wedding once they see how much money people have given them. You wouldn't ask your guests "Hey, could you put some money towards the band so we can have them for the reception?" I don't want to offend anyone- that's just how it comes across to me.
There are tons of other places to register that aren't just housewares, so just do a few things at a couple places like Amazon or Target and then people will get the hint you would rather have money for traveling.
is it just me or am i the only one who thought that honeymoon registries arent because you cant "afford" to buy your own honeymoon, but its giving people a chance to buy a memory for you when you already have all the tangible physical stuff (read: kitchen stuff, sheets, etc.)... for instance, my friend who just got married did a honeymoon registry and they did it because they didnt need things like china etc, so instead, they registered for "night out under the stars" or "horseback riding picnic" and it was kinda cool beacuse they were able to send pictures out to the folks who brought whatever it was and say "thank you for getting us a night under the stars".
people dont always do honeymoon registries because they cant afford their own honeymoon, they do it because it would be a waste for someone to buy something you already have, so why not purchase something you will actually use?
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We are thinking of doing one gift registry and one honeymoon registry. Reason being we have lived together for 4 years and own a house together. There are a few things that we need to "upgrade" but we have the majority of the things that new couples would need to register for.
FI and I love to travel and like experiences more than tactile things. Additionally, we may not be able to afford a honeymoon with the expense of the wedding so we thought that a honeymoon registry would allow us to have a great honeymoon.
We figure that this will also appeal to our guests as I know some would love to contribute to the honeymoon memories but at the same time I know some would love to give us a gift that we would keep for years.
I have issues with registries in the first place as it makes it seem as though we are EXPECTING gifts, which we are not! But I know that people who like to give gifts like registries and I personally always enjoy buying gifts off the registry for weddings and showers.
So my questions are: Is it presumptuous to have 2 registries for different things? Will this offend my guests? Or will they enjoy having a choice?