(Closed) Is it tacky to remind people via facebook

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Tacky or No?
    Yes : (100 votes)
    78 %
    No : (29 votes)
    22 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1361 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    It’s not only tacky, but rude, unless you invited every single person on Facebook who can see your profile.

    ETA: Also, wait until after the deadline to start following up with people.  They aren’t late yet.

    Post # 4
    Member
    3078 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I think you should wait to contact people after the deadline has passed, even if it’s the day after the deadline has passed.  People procrastinate.  Give them until the date.  Then if you are going to contact them do it by phone.  It’s not a birthday party, it’s a wedding.  A phone call is much more personal.

    Post # 5
    Member
    254 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I waited till the deadline then started texting, calling and e-mailing people =)

    Post # 6
    Member
    2702 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Definitely do NOT remind people via a FB status.  I would find that in very poor taste since basically you’d be rubbing it in the faces of those not invited.  However, it is perfectly resonable to send a private message once the deadline has passed.

    Post # 7
    Member
    1186 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @Beckster329:  I agree completely.  It makes me cringe to see fb friends talk about their RSVPs when I’m not invited.

    And yes, wait until the deadline. If you need a response right now then today should have been your deadline.

    Post # 8
    Member
    1583 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    If you do that you will be announcing to all of your other facebook friends that they were not invited. Or you may run the risk that people who were not invited will click on your RSVP link. I would say, yes, that is tacky. Not only that, it is considered rude to follow-up before your RSVP deadline has passed. Once it does you need to follow-up individually with a phone call.

    Post # 9
    Member
    12816 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Don’t make a facebook status unless you’ve invited everyone who sees it.  It’s also rude to bug people before the date passes.  Once it does, you should call people individually.

    Post # 10
    Member
    6512 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    By private message after the deadline has passed?  No.

    By status, at any time?  YES. 

    Post # 11
    Member
    2697 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @Beckster329:  Yep. OP, you may be dodging “Oh, I didn’t get my invite!” if you go this route.

    Post # 13
    Hostess
    16217 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    I agree with previously posters. First of all, I’d wait to do any reminding until the deadline has passed. No one’s RSVPs are actually late yet. And I’d recommend against writing a status because not everyone on your Facebook is invited.

    Plus, you’d be surprised by how many RSVPs you receive here in this last week! 🙂

    Post # 14
    Member
    5670 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I wouldn’t post it on your wall as a post, but I think you could message each person individually.

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