Post # 1
So I have 75 outstanding people who need to RSVP our deadline is less than a week away, is it tacky to send the following via facebook status?
“Hey everyone, less than a week to our RSVP deadline. Please get your RSVP in the mail or you may RSVP via our wedding wedsite __insert link here__. Thanks!!”
Post # 3
It’s not only tacky, but rude, unless you invited every single person on Facebook who can see your profile.
ETA: Also, wait until after the deadline to start following up with people. They aren’t late yet.
Post # 4
I think you should wait to contact people after the deadline has passed, even if it’s the day after the deadline has passed. People procrastinate. Give them until the date. Then if you are going to contact them do it by phone. It’s not a birthday party, it’s a wedding. A phone call is much more personal.
Post # 5
I waited till the deadline then started texting, calling and e-mailing people =)
Post # 6
Definitely do NOT remind people via a FB status. I would find that in very poor taste since basically you’d be rubbing it in the faces of those not invited. However, it is perfectly resonable to send a private message once the deadline has passed.
Post # 7
@Beckster329: I agree completely. It makes me cringe to see fb friends talk about their RSVPs when I’m not invited.
And yes, wait until the deadline. If you need a response right now then today should have been your deadline.
Post # 8
If you do that you will be announcing to all of your other facebook friends that they were not invited. Or you may run the risk that people who were not invited will click on your RSVP link. I would say, yes, that is tacky. Not only that, it is considered rude to follow-up before your RSVP deadline has passed. Once it does you need to follow-up individually with a phone call.
Post # 9
Don’t make a facebook status unless you’ve invited everyone who sees it. It’s also rude to bug people before the date passes. Once it does, you should call people individually.
Post # 10
By private message after the deadline has passed? No.
By status, at any time? YES.
Post # 11
@Beckster329: Yep. OP, you may be dodging “Oh, I didn’t get my invite!” if you go this route.
Post # 13
I agree with previously posters. First of all, I’d wait to do any reminding until the deadline has passed. No one’s RSVPs are actually late yet. And I’d recommend against writing a status because not everyone on your Facebook is invited.
Plus, you’d be surprised by how many RSVPs you receive here in this last week! 🙂
Post # 14
I wouldn’t post it on your wall as a post, but I think you could message each person individually.