Post # 1
Hey bees so I need your advice here. Fi and i are attending his cousin wedding this weekend however his brother called to him to ask if he wanted to split on a registry gift which is $75 each total of $150. FI asked me if I wanted to sign the card along with 5 other names on it who isn’t paying for the gift. My question is I don’t wanna sign the card because I think its sort of tacky to spilt on a registry gift with 5 other names on it please don’t judge me for this. Sorry I just rather give cash in my own separate card would that be okay?
Post # 3
If it was a bridal shower I’d personally say yes but since it’s the wedding I’d decline and give a card with cash.
Post # 4
My family did that.. they bought us a cookware set and split it.. i didnt think twice.. the only thing that is annoying is having write 5 cards for one gift because they dont all live in the same place!!
Post # 5
Obviously everyone’s finances are different, but to me a $150 gift is not that expensive so I’d feel cheap splitting that with anyone. I would be totally fine splitting something like a $600 Dyson with another couple or two, but in the case of the $150 item I’d just get my own gift/cash.
Post # 6
i would only sign if every person who signed contributed the same amount. i would not want someone else to take credit for something i purchased.
i would chip in $100 if all 5 people were chipping in $100 for a $500 gift.
in this case, 2 people paying, 5 people signing. i would say i want to buy my own gift.
Post # 7
If it was a shower, splitting a more expensive gift one or two ways is normal & not tacky. I would definitely not want to appear to ‘split a $150 item 5 ways’ for a wedding though. Give the newlyweds the $75
Post # 8
@Pinkmoon: +1 I thought it was totally cheap. FI brother and his gf can afford it.
Post # 9
Unless those other people were children, I wouldn’t split the gift if the others truly didn’t pay for it.
But I see nothing wrong with splitting larger gifts. My family does this all the time for anything over $200 (it’s the norm to give $50 gifts at showers and $100+ monetary gifts at weddings).
Post # 10
It’s not a big enough gift to split that many ways, so I would not do it.
Post # 11
I’d rather have people split the $100+ items on my registry than get a bunch of spatulas (not that I wouldn’t like the spatulas). I’m less likely to buy the expensive items for myself.
Post # 12
In my family, giving a $150 gift from 5 people wouldn’t fly (my mom’s side is Italian; how much you put in the “boosta” is a big deal), so I’m biased. I would ditch that idea and go with your suggestion of a card and money.
Post # 13
I don’t think I get it — your FBIL wants to pay $75 and for you to pay $75 for the gift, but he’s going to let five other people sign their names to the card when none of them paid for the gift that he wants you to pay for?
Post # 14
yeah sorry it’s tacky in my opinion.
Post # 15
@cmbr: Yes thats exactly what it is. He wants us to pay $75 for it. An the others not pay for it.
Post # 16
@Serey: Splitting if everyone is paying and equal amount toward the gift=YES. Cosigning on a card for a gift but not contributing any money toward the gift=Hellz no.