Is it tacky to split on a registry gift?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2179 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

If it was a bridal shower I’d personally say yes but since it’s the wedding I’d decline and give a card with cash.

Post # 4
753 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My family did that.. they bought us a cookware set and split it.. i didnt think twice.. the only thing that is annoying is having write 5 cards for one gift because they dont all live in the same place!! 

Post # 5
10748 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

Obviously everyone’s finances are different, but to me a $150 gift is not that expensive so I’d feel cheap splitting that with anyone. I would be totally fine splitting something like a $600 Dyson with another couple or two, but in the case of the $150 item I’d just get my own gift/cash. 

Post # 6
6158 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i would only sign if every person who signed contributed the same amount.  i would not want someone else to take credit for something i purchased. 

i would chip in $100 if all 5 people were chipping in $100 for a $500 gift.

in this case, 2 people paying, 5 people signing.  i would say i want to buy my own gift.


Post # 7
274 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

If it was a shower, splitting a more expensive gift one or two ways is normal & not tacky.  I would definitely not want to appear to ‘split a $150 item 5 ways’ for a wedding though.   Give the newlyweds the $75

Post # 9
2454 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Unless those other people were children, I wouldn’t split the gift if the others truly didn’t pay for it. 

But I see nothing wrong with splitting larger gifts. My family does this all the time for anything over $200 (it’s the norm to give $50 gifts at showers and $100+ monetary gifts at weddings). 

Post # 10
3570 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

It’s not a big enough gift to split that many ways, so I would not do it.

Post # 11
1068 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I’d rather have people split the $100+ items on my registry than get a bunch of spatulas (not that I wouldn’t like the spatulas).  I’m less likely to buy the expensive items for myself.

Post # 12
158 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

In my family, giving a $150 gift from 5 people wouldn’t fly (my mom’s side is Italian; how much you put in the “boosta” is a big deal), so I’m biased. I would ditch that idea and go with your suggestion of a card and money.

Post # 13
3664 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I don’t think I get it — your FBIL wants to pay $75 and for you to pay $75 for the gift, but he’s going to let five other people sign their names to the card when none of them paid for the gift that he wants you to pay for?

Post # 14
11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

yeah sorry it’s tacky in my opinion.

Post # 16
2696 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Serey:  Splitting if everyone is paying and equal amount toward the gift=YES. Cosigning on a card for a gift but not contributing any money toward the gift=Hellz no.

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