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SAME THING HAPPENED TO ME! She is my best friend and MOH and she had only been dating him about 2 months. When she said they broke up...my first thought was "omg! thats 1 less! I hope she doesnt ask to bring someone else now?!"
Only if it's terrible that for every last minute RSVP I receive that's a "yes" I openly cringe.
AND it begins.
I suppose I should've said that they weren't serious and she's totally fine with the breakup.
ETA: But I suppose I did ask. And got an answer.
hahah Sorry your friend got dumped but I would have the same thought right now. We are at the max as well so I get excited when I see a decline too (well at first I'm disappointed but then it's like one more spot!)
I think as long as you didn't communicate that thought to your friend, you're probably in the clear :)
Would she still want to bring another guest, a new person she starts to date or a close friend, or would she not mind coming solo? I just wouldn't want you to assume she comes alone and then shows up with someone....that would be kind of awkward, lol, and totally throw your guest list numbers off.
It didn't have to be a bad break-up or anything, it is still seems little self-absorbed to think of your guest list at all in this situation, especially when your invitations won't even be sent for another 6-7 months (plenty of time for her to get another boyfriend).
@bRooklynRocks: It was sometime over the weekend I think (im not a stalker) thats just when I noticed i was SOOO confused!
I totally would feel the same thing! I know its bad but its not like you are saying it to her!
Even if she gets another boyfriend by then, we won't be inviting him. We had to make a rule that if one of our friends has been dating someone for less than six months, they won't be invited. She was dating her guy for just about that long, but they were never serious - it was more of "friends with benefits" thing, but exclusive.
So unless she starts dating another guy right now, it's not an issue.
She won't mind coming alone. She's very independent and will have a lot of frineds there.
Re: my avatar - I decided I didn't need my face as my profile pic. :)
@danadelphia: I really like that rule you set up because so many single people just automatically assume they can bring a date. I can understand if it's a close friend with a serious relationship, but someone just bringing a date for the heck of it? No way! Good choice!
@AudzinLuv: Thanks! There is actually one exception, a girlfriend of mine who won't know anyone else. She's single but we're letting her bring a date so that she won't be loney (although she's so outgoing she'll make friends no matter what). Since nobody knows her, nobody will be like "Why did SHE get to bring a date but I didn't?"
I definitely feel your pain with the tight guest list, but aren't you going to offer your friend a "and guest" anyway? Maybe she will be dating someone again by the time your wedding rolls around, and then how would you tell her that you revoked his spot when she dumped the old boyfriend? I saw your post about the whole 6 month rule thing, but I still think it'd be awkward...just my thoughts!
Totally understandable.. my MOH is inviting her WHOLE FAMILY!
Then she was like, oh I'm not bringing a boyfriend, but I'm bringing my other friend. Ummmm okay... Sure $100 a person, whatever you want there Megan. She's new to weddings...
@FutureMrsBPB: I haven't sent out any invitations yet, so I haven't "revoked" anything. Single people don't get to bring a guest, period.
I'm just as bad. Four of my friends have gotten engaged and although I'm really excited for then, I've rolled my eyes after the addition of four new guests. Ugh. FI thinks it's comical.
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that the first thing I thought after finding out a friend dumped her boyfriend was "Ooh, that's one more spot on the guest list!"
I can't help it. Our guest list is so limited that every spot is valuable. I'd rather invite one of our b-listers than some dude I only met one time.