Post # 1
My BF and I have been together 4 years. We speak in terms of “when we get married.” We have been talking about the ring (i want a big rock). My BF (an accountant) wants to be practical 🙂 We’ll meet in the middle.
Several months ago I found my dream dress! Maggie Sottero Limited Edition SL 8121 (blair).
I found it on a site for $249 (dress regular $1760), in a size 6. I am far from a size 6 but was so in love and the price was right I began negotiations with the seller. The deal fell through (she changed her mind about selling the dress).
The dress became discontinued on August 14, 2010. There are limited stores that have the dress (because it was a limited edition). I found 1 size 10. I talked the store down from 15% of hte orginal price to 50%.
Becasue of the limted nature of the dress and my firm belief that it is the one, I have decided to purchase the dress (I saw the dress in person in s a size 6).
I never thought I would be this type of girl! Am I Wrong?
Post # 3
That is one gorgeous dress!!
However, please take a couple of things into consideration. A lot of brides just know they are going to want this one style dress. They are not willing to compromise or take anything else into consideration. But then they try it on…and they hate it. Have you tried the dress?? It may not be “The One” after all.
Also, do not get your body to fit the dress; get the dress to fit your body. Again, a lot of brides will buy a dress 2 or 3 sizes down because they figure on losing weight. Sometimes that is not the case & they find they didn’t lose as much as anticipated. It’s much easier to take a dress in than it is to let it out.
I don’t think you’re wrong, but shop smart. I don’t blame you for wanting this gown, it’s SO beautiful.
Post # 4
I… wouldn’t do it. There’s a good chance that you could find the dress on Once Wed (or similar sites) like you did before. I’d also like to know if you’ve actually tried it on. I totally get pre-planning though since you’re just waiting on a ring at this point! But I just think the dress is one of those things that really, really should not be rushed into. In the time that I’ve been browsing wedding stuff, dresses, etc., my tastes have changed significantly, and that’s only been over the course of the last 10 months or so. When you get closer to your actual wedding, you get a better idea of what you’re really looking for. Not that I’m all that close… lol. Anyway, good luck in whatever you decide, but just thought I’d throw in my two cents!
Post # 5
I too would have to offer a word of caution. I’ve been engaged for nearly two years now and my ideas for my wedding dress have changed a lot over the last two years. Plus, if you haven’t tried it on it’s a big risk to take, especially if you’re ordering it in a different size – were you planning on having in altered?
Post # 6
beautiful! I’d be tempted to buy, but along with the others, my tastes have changed. If you think yours won’t, get it.
Post # 7
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
I wouldn’t do it. I’ve been engaged for just nine months and I’ve already bought FOUR dresses – changed my mind on three of them.
Post # 8
This is the only suggestion I can give. If you really truly believe that is your dress – then get it! But if I were you I would not keep trying on dresses, because I found that even after purchasing my “the one” dress its hard not to second guess because there are so so many dresses out there. So if you do make the decision try not to keep looking – that is unless you truly see something that you are more inlove with. Good luck!!!
Post # 9
My advice is – buy the dress! You won’t be disappointed. I wil be married in this dress in two months. It is absolutely gorgeous and breathtaking. I am 4’10 so on someone of normal height i will look even more spectacular!
Post # 10
I think the most important thing would be to remember that things could change. Anything could, actually.
I have a cousin who bought her dress before she was engaged, and even though he was going to propose, she met someone else, and they broke up. Now she has a dress sitting in her closet. Also, you could start making plans, realize that the dress doesn’t fit with the location, formality, etc, and then you have a dress.
Post # 11
I can’t vote int he poll because the choices don’t work for me.
I would NOT buy it. First of all, just because you love it on a hanger does not mean you will love it on. I can’t tell you how many bees have said that they had one thing in mind, and then when they tried it on, it was a completely different story. Also, you cannot tell by y our street size what size you will be in a gown (I’m a street 8/10, and my gown is a 14)! You def. don’t buy down in size, typically.
There are also way to many “what ifs” in your situation. And, by the time yhou get marrie,d you could absolutely change your mind. I had a photo of a dress that I hung onto for over two years, and it is now not only out of style, but when I tried one on that was similar, I didn’t like it at all.
There is no way you should buy a dress without trying it on to see if you like it ON.
Post # 12
I change my mind ALL the time, so I wouldn’t do it. I could see myself a few months down the road falling in lust with something else. But if you really, really love it then you should buy it.
Post # 13
@ceamoste: I was thinking along the same lines. I think its pretty risky buying the dress before the engagement. I would be concern on having the dress fit in with the whole concept of the wedding. Location, time etc….
Post # 14
As great of a deal it might be, I would say wait on it. Like others have said before tastes do change and trust me, once you get engaged you will not want to stop looking at dresses and anything else wedding related. You also dont want to miss out on the opportunity to take your friends and family and GO dress shopping. It’s so much fun. I would insist on waiting. As much as you love this dress, you may find it on a pre-owned site OR you could also find something else you love better down the line.
I bought a dress too quickly. Before I even had my church or hall or date, and while I love the dress, my timeline changed and my dress just didnt fit my venue anymore, so I had to go out looking for something else. If I had someone there telling me to wait and to think about it, I wouldnt be trying to sell it right now and I wouldnt be out the money.
My advice would be that if it’s meant to be your dress, then it will still be there when you get engaged and have a chance to start looking at dresses and start trying them on. Keep in mind too that just because you like it in a picture, doesnt mean you will like it on. You will find a gorgeous dress for your day, but take the time now to keep looking and keep your options open. 🙂
Post # 15
thanks for all the advice 🙂 i have seen the dress in person and tried the dress on. but all your comments have given me a lot of food for thought (especially venue fitting the dress choice). i guess i should wait, but i wish i didn’t have to. thanks 🙂
Post # 16
@preppypeppytiff: Don’t worry. When it comes time to really get planning, you’ll find something you love. There are so many gorgeous dresses out there!