Post # 1
DH and I don’t plan on having children for the next 3-4 years and yesterday we were talking about how important it will be for us to attend parenting classes and read parenting books. DH was raised by a babysitter in a completely different country and I was an extremely abused child. Therefore, neither one of us would really know how to raise a child properly based on our experiences. Although we don;t plan on TTC for a few years, DH mentioned to me that we should start parenting classes now so when the time comes, we will be confident and well educated on what is ok. What do you bees think about this? Is it way too soon?
Post # 3
I’ve never done parenting classes personally, but I think it’s a great idea. My mom also came from a pretty crappy family situation, and I know she read a lot of parenting books before she had me. I don’t know how early she started, but it seems like you should just go for it if this is something that you want to start now.
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2011 - Clark Gardens
I think it sounds like a really great, proactive approach!
Post # 5
I’m an hour late, but it seems to me that the sooner you begin classes and preparing for things, the better things will turn out. I’m never planning on having kids, but if I was, I’d probably begin taking classes and reading books as soon as possible. I’d probably want to go back in time to start planning 10 years ago if I could.
Plus saving some money’s not a bad idea either.
Post # 6
@Tswife4ever: Where I live there are actually family planning classes, that are meant for people who are not yet trying to have childrem. You should try to find something like that.
Post # 7
@mwitter80: I am going to look into that! Thanks!
Post # 8
Thats a great idea. I feel like more people should do this kind of thing!
Post # 9
Go for it, the fact that the two of you are thinking like this shows me that your going to be great parents when you finally do decide to have kids!
Post # 10
Another thing I think might be really helpful to you two is to do some volunteering with children. It will give you an opportunity to get more comfortable interacting with them. And if you do something in a group setting.. it will allow you to observe the children interacting with other adults as well.
Post # 11
@Cicera: Thank you!
@Moose1209: I actually work in Pediatrics so I do get a good exposure to children. I LOVE children! I am going to suiggest this to my DH though. This is a great idea!
Post # 12
I don’t see anything wrong with being prepared earlier! I think it’s a great idea. Not only will you feel more equipped to parent when the time comes, you’ll be more at ease knowing you have the tools to do it. Also, specific parenting methods/styles may come up, you guys may not be on the same page about how to approach them. It’ll be good to have that dialogue going in advance so you guys can be on the same page when you need to be.
Post # 13
I personally am waiting until I’m at least 12 weeks pregnant or have adoption paperwork approved. Since your husband is on board, I’d ask this: Do you have a back-up plan if you can’t get pregnant? What if you’re not approved for adoption? Is foster care an option? Basically, I wouldn’t want to put a whole lot of time and money into something that is already emotionally charged unless I was certain it wouldn’t cause a whole lot of heartache later.