Is it too early to send wedding invitations?

posted 2 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 2
4762 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Yes it’s way too early, especially if you sent STDs. I feel like 3 months would even be pushing it.

Post # 4
42135 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Lauren267: It’s far too early for onvitations.  If you sent STD’s, the people who are planning on attending are already aware of the date.. They will be applying for time off if they want to attend. They may or may not be saving up. Sending an invitation now is going to change nothing.

Post # 5
5081 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2050

Lauren267:  It’s way too early, even for a DW. That’s what your STDs were for.

Post # 6
1701 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Lauren267:  I Understand your excitement but it’s to early. I say way until 2 months before to send out the invitations. Plus if you already had send the STD’s people already know if they will be be able to come or not.

Post # 8
174 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I am the odd one here, but here is my take.  My wedding is also July 2015 (in Bermuda), and some of my guests will have to save to attend and will need to take time off well in advance.  I have not sent save the dates and I am not planning on doing so.  I will send my invitations in January including an insert directing guests to my website and app for travel info.

I would like to get this out of the way and don’t see any reason to wait, especially since I have not sent STDs.  My wedding website and app have the capability to send reminders, so I will send reminders three months out.

Proper etiquette may require something else, but a lot of those rules are simple because someone started doing it one way and everyone else followed.  If it does not work in your situation ….

Post # 9
1500 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016

I agree with a PP that because it’s a destination wedding, it’s okay to send your invites a little earlier. 2 months I feel is far too short of notice, especially if they need to save up. Yes, you sent save the dates, but I feel like more people take actual invitations way more seriously as a -hello, yes, this thing is actually happening. So some folks might not be even thinking about saving and figuring out if they can actually make it work until the invite is in their hands. While I do think 7 months is too early, I see no problem with 3-4 months in advance.

Post # 10
495 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I sent engagement notices and save the dates in one, a year and a half early before the date, we already knew where and when we wanted to get married. We aren’t sending out invites because we don’t expect many people travelling to vegas from the UK or Aus, and there’s not really a reception. I’d say it’s too early, 3 months probably won’t be, you will want your numbers 

Post # 11
767 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Lauren267:  I agree with Twinkle Boss- I usually don’t even remember save the dates and I would be MAD if I got the invite 2 months before because it is not enough time to really plan. I would say Late-Mid- March early April.

Post # 12
37 posts
  • Wedding: November 2015

Yes, it’s too early. we often send it out two or a month before the wedding day.

Post # 13
105 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I sent mine out 7 months before the wedding, it isnt a DW, but we wanted to know who would be coming. As we are on a tight budget, anyone who couldnt make it to the day created more space for someone coming to the evening that is now invited to the day. Send them out when you want to! We have several guests that work in hospitals on horrible shift patterns, and even though we are getting married in April, they still wanted to know ASAP which dates to book off. We went by what our guests said. Plus, ive just started a master’s degree as well as working full time and my OH is now doing an engineering doctorate so we have limited time to do wedding planning!

From what ive been told from our florist, venue and photographer, early planning just makes it less stressful nearer the time, I dont know about anyone else, but we dont want to feel rushed and stressed out coming up to our wedding day! Half the wedding favours are made as well!

Post # 14
90 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

For a destination wedding, I do not think 7 months is too early, especially with the next month or so being the holidays (which can fly by). Did you do ‘save the dates’?

I’m having a destination wedding too, and everyone invited has said – the earlier you can tell us, the better.

Also…I’m a nurse. So I would really like to know in advance, and as far as in the invitation, you don’t have to request it back very soon, but it lets people like me try to arrange their schedules.


Good luck!

Post # 15
111 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

For a DW? Send them out as early as you want! Everyone’s financial situations are different, and it may take some people a year to save to be able to go, or even get the time off of work. I think waiting 2-3 months before may be unfair to some of your guests. Yes, you’ve verbally told them, but the invite makes it official and tells your guests that your dates and location are set and that they have x number of days to save x amount of money if they want to join you on this trip. Without the formal invitation, to me, all of that is just talk.

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