Post # 1
So, my wedding is in about 2 months, and I have been engaged since last fall. We didn’t actually start planning the wedding until after Christmas. I live very far away from my hometown (where the wedding will be held) and haven’t seen my cousin (who lives in my hometown) in over a year. We have always had a positive, warm, relationship, but not super-close due to a rather large age gap of 7 years with her being older than me (that gap doesn’t seem quite as wide now that we’re adults).
That’s the background information. I had thought about asking my cousin to be a bridesmaid, but hesitated becuase I wondered whether she would feel that we weren’t close enough. I had mentioned to my mom that I wanted my cousin’s kids to be in the wedding (flower girl and ring bearer) and when my mom mentioned this to my cousin, my cousin was thrilled and elated and said yes right away. That’s when I thought maybe I was silly not to ask her to be a bridesmaid. Pretty soon, I’m planning to call my cousin to officially ask her whether the kids can be in the wedding, and I would honestly love for her to be in my wedding.
So . . . . the rest of the wedding party was asked a few months ago, and the wedding is only 2 months away . . . do you think it’s too late to ask my cousin?
Post # 3
As long as you don’t have a certain dress in mind for her to wear and are flexible like that, I cannot see why not!
Post # 4
hmm might be a little to close to the wedding if she has to get a dress and thats an expensive she might have not accounted for. I also think this is a nice oppertunity to get closer with her, and I think as long as you approach her with an open mind and put the possibility that she may turn you down in your head it will be fine! Good luck, and explain your reasoning to her either way she might happy to know you wanted her in the wedding even if she can’t do it.
Post # 5
Failing that, you could ask her to do a reading. My friend asked me 2 weeks before her wedding if I would mind doing that as she wanted me to be a part of the wedding party. I was delighted to do so. She may feel the same.
Post # 6
yikes. this is a tough one. 2 months is close, if you do ask her, I would maybe offer to pay for her bridesmaid dress or another related expense. Especially if her kids are already in the wedding. It may be a lot for her. And make sure to give her a way out when you ask her just in case she cant afford it! I know its hard when you have kids. and expensive to be in a wedding. But, I have felt the same way with some of my bridesmaids, I just couldnt get the idea out of my head to ask them and when I finally did, it ended up being an amazing experience and I grew even closer to that person. Sometimes, I think women are in tune with their feelings for a reason and I always eventually go with mine. Good luck and go with your heart