- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
First, we were going to have a wedding in our hometown, but since no details were really final, I stayed quiet.
Then we said we will go away, just he and I, hence I didn’t need bridesmaids. Then we decided to just go away, he and I, in the US, but still no bridesmaids.
The other night at dinner FI’s mom very kindly made it obvious she would like to be there. I was really touched because it means on some level she supports us and that feels nice. And I do like her and his family. 🙂
So we went home that night and talked it over. It’s never been that we didn’t want people there…it’s that my family can totally stress me out and I didn’t need or want that. That is FI’s concern, too. He knows how they can get.
We made a list and came up with about 25 people to invite. Two of the invited would be women I would have instantly asked to be a BM, if I were having a regular wedding. One of these ladies is throwing me a shower…she told me about 3 weeks ago and she’s totally excited. I am really touched because she would have just had her second babay!
We get married Nov 11th. Nothing is booked yet. But we have settled on the destination location and date for sure.
Should I ask them? Should I wait until we have something booked? Do I ask before or after I send STD? We weren’t obviously going to have those but since we are going away and inviting people, it’s only fair to send one.