Is it too late to invite these guests?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is it too late to get them an invite today?
    Yes, it is too late. : (10 votes)
    18 %
    No, it's not too late. Get them invites today. : (38 votes)
    69 %
    Whether it's late or not, it would be better not to invite them at this point. : (7 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2878 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    We got invites to my DH’s coworkers about 5 weeks prior to the wedding.  The main reason was because he had feelers out for other jobs at the time when we sent out our other invites.  We didn’t want to invite his co-workers, and then find out they were not his co workers by our wedding date. Ours was a destination, per say, but it is 3 hours round trip from where we live and work.  We still had 8 of the come, and they were actually really happy to come.

    If you can get them out right away, I see no harm.  If you need RSVPs, I would talk with them personally about it.  They might get an impression of being B listed, but I wouldn’t care if you were honest about it. 

     

    Post # 5
    Member
    1180 posts
    Bumble bee

    As a guest, if I got a wedding invitation a month before the event, I’d decline. I’d feel like I was a B or even C list invitation. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    715 posts
    Busy bee

    Shkragoldfish:  if it’s people i like, i don’t mind being b- or c-listed due to circumstances. if i get an invite 5 weeks before the wedding and can make it, yay! if i have other plans, I’ll decline. if it’s people i don’t like and it feels that the invite is just gift-grabby, then i’d be somewhat offended (i know, not mature… but that’s just how i feel)

    Post # 9
    Member
    491 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    For a destination wedding it’s likely too late for people to get their rears in gear to travel on short notice.  But there’s no harm in extending the invites, just be prepared that there’s an extremely strong chance that they will RSVP as no.

    Post # 10
    Member
    5012 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Shkragoldfish:  If it’s 5 weeks out, and your RSVP date is still far away…I would send them…today. We got an invite to a wedding at 5 weeks that only let us have about a week and a half to the RSVP date – AND FI was in the wedding so it obviously wasn’t a b list invite. I’d say do it…but do it today. 

    Post # 12
    Member
    657 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    No it’s rude, you shouldn’t have some sort of last minute B list. I know I wouldn’t attend.

    Post # 15
    Member
    42490 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Shkragoldfish:  I think anyone who is married understands that we all have to cut off the invitation list somewhere.

    I would not be the least offended if I received an invitation 5 weeks out. Personally, I would also phone the people, tell them the invitation is in the mail.  I would explain that we had to priorize family, but now that we knew a number of family members were unable to attend, we were excited to be able to invite our friends.

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