Post # 1
I got engaged in October 2013, and have yet to set an official date. The venue I was considering does have an opening for Oct. 4th, however, I’m fearful I will just be rushing everything. Additionally, I’m now worried that my out of town guests won’t have enough notice. I’ve always deep down known I wanted an October wedding date, and am now kicking myself for not committing. I think my delay is due the constant nagging I recieved once I was proposed to. At this point, does it make more sense to set a 2015 date?@
Post # 2
- Wedding: December 2014 - Columbia, SC
marierenee: I think it depends on your vision for the wedding and your budget and resources. As far as letting out of town guests know, you have 3 months, but I would send invites ASAP and skip STDs.
Post # 3
marierenee: It really depends on your budget and if you have enough time to plan! Some people can do this really well in 3 months, but it also comes down to how elaborate of a wedding you would like. We are having a 10 month engagement, and I honestly feel that 5-7 months would have been enough, however, that comes down to the fact that we aren’t having a huge wedding and I have been planning things at a pretty slow pace. What is it about October that you really like? Would you be open to a date early next year, like in April or May?
Post # 4
- Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand
As PPs have said, it really depends on the type of wedding you want. It is likely you can have an October 2014 wedding, it would just require being more flexible on your part as a lot of vendors are likely to be booked already. I think the biggest concerns would be the dress, as your choices would be limited in what could still be ordered, with enough time for alterations and yes, your out of town guests (this is dependent on how far these guests need to travel/how close they are to you and your family or your SO’s family/whether they had some clue you would likely want an October wedding). If you really have your heart set on having your out of town guests at your wedding, you would be better off planning an October 15th wedding, but keep in my mind that is no guarantee they will attend.
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2014 - EDD Aug '15
I just had my wedding, and reading your post and thinking of all that planning in just 3 months gave me chills down my spine!! Yikes!
*However* if you and your fi’d be happy with a simple wedding and aren’t fussed by small details (you’ll have to make fast decisions), I think it’s do-able. But be prepared for stress, and possible not enjoy the run-up to your wedding much.
I’d recommend going with a 2015 date and enjoy planning and having time to plan the dream wedding unless there might be reasons you want to marry quickly (health, finances, wanting to ttc soon etc)..
Post # 6
I was engaged for only 4 months and I’m so glad it worked out that way. I had to make quick decisions, didn’t have time to second-guess anything, just got it done. It is very do-able! I did have a smaller wedding (75 guests) and no bridal party, which helped. You can totally do this, just get on the phone and start making things happen. Not one vendor said they couldn’t accommodate me. If I had a longer engagement, I’d have gone crazy with the options that are out there. Good Luck, you can do this!!!!!
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2014 - Savannah, GA
I think it’s definitely possible. I think we have this expectation that we’ll need lots and lots of time to plan, but really, most of it can be done in a week. We’ve had a long engagement and most of the time we’ve been just counting down the days without anything really to do. I think you can do it.
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2014 - Stevens Estate
marierenee: i think your biggest problem would be trying to get vendors on short notice if you decide to do it. A couple months back I tried picking a photographer, and I still had eight months to my wedding date. All my top picks were taken. I was so disappointed. I ended up with a so so photographer. I would make sure you have the vendor thing figured out before you commit to that date.
Post # 9
It can be done, if you know your budget and know what you want as your vision. It can be scary! My cousin is getting married in September. She has been engaged for about a year, but they just sprang this on everyone! Originally it was supposed to be July 26, with about four weeks notice!
If you are organized and know what you want, and have a lot of support, go ahead! Just get those invites out now!
Post # 10
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!
I think it’s do-able, but if you need to order a dress and have it altered you will really be pushing it. Sometimes they take months to come in. I would say get the dress ordered ASAP and start calling vendors, lining up the photographer, asking your bridal party, all that now. First check with immediate family and the bridal party on the Oct. 4th date and go from there.
Post # 11
A simple wedding can be fine. Sit down and cut out what is not necessary. You don’t need a bachelorette party, maybe your mom could do a lunch for the BMs and you. You don’t need favors. See if you can divide and conquer. If you are doing DJ (or even DIY music), see if DH can do playlist, just tell what you don’t want. Can you mom or FMIL take care of flowers? Again, just tell them what you don’t want. Are you going to insist BMs wear the same dress? If not, just tell them color you want. Alternatively, call a wedding planner and see what she says (not my favorite option), but consider a day of coordinator.
Post # 12
marierenee: It doesn’t really help that much, but November can be lovely as well and gives you a liiiiittle more time.
Honestly, I don’t see how you can do this in 3/4 months, unless you’re going unconventional. Attire itself will take several weeks to come in and you may have trouble finding vendors. Plus, IT’LL BE REALLY STRESSFUL.
Post # 13
marierenee: I planned a relatively elaborate wedding in 2.5 months. As other people have mentioned, you won’t really be able to order a dress, you’ll have to go off the rack. If you can live with that, everything else is totally doable. My advice is to get a good wedding planner/DoC. They will really help you get your stuff together, find good vendors, etc. My planner has been a godsend, she basically planned my wedding in the first week and now we’re just working out some kinks/details.
Post # 14
From an etiquette perspective, you are fine as long as your VIPs can make it on that date. Invitations only need to be sent 6-8 weeks in advance. You may want to give your guests an informal heads-up as soon as you book the venue though.
Post # 15
It might be tight, but if you know that other vendors will be available to use by that time… go for it!
I’d mainly be nervous about ordering dresses in, for both you and your wedding party. I ordered my dress in April, and although it just arrived – they said originally that it would be mid-August (so 4 months later). Also, the BM dresses had the same timeframe but am guessing they’ll get here in August when estimated. So, unless you buy something off the rack or let them wear whatever they want and can find easily – it may be doable.
I just wouldn’t want the stress. I already have a list a mile long of things to do and our engagement will only be 7 months long once the main vendors were booked. I feel overwhelmed, and although a short planing time makes for quick decisions, you still want to know that you made the best possible decisions.