Post # 1
My partner and i have been discussing getting married for the last 6 months, he asked me to choose and ring and i know that he has now commissioned it so it should come in the next 6 weeks.
My concern is although i knew all of this was coming and i was more than happy to choose the ring (as im very fussy) – it kind of feels like hes not made a massive amound of effort yet~! (other then paying that is)
I am just a bit concerend when the ring arrives hes just going to hand it to me or something, like i know its coming so he doesnt have to officially propose! Im possibly being a bit dramatic, but should i hint that id like a real proposal even though i know its coming and iv seen the ring?
or should i give him the benefit of the doubt?
Post # 3
I’d say give him the benefit of the doubt. And it might not seem like he’s making the effort but when you think about it, he’s made the effort to make sure that you love the ring that he’s going to give you. Even if it was asking you to pick it.
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
Well, you could always mention to him or have an open discussion about how you’d still like to be proposed to! I think it’s wonderful to have a say in the ring and make getting engaged a joint decision, rather than keep it one-sided but I completely understand wanting a “romantic” proposal…
I would just tell him this, making sure he knows how appreciative you are of being included in the ring purchase/decision to get engaged but that it is always nice to hear WHY he loves you and wants to marry you and to get an official, heartfelt proposal…
Post # 5
My fiance and I picked out the ring together too and we were going to Cuba for Valentines Day so all of our friends kinda ruined the surprise by saying that he was for sure going to do it there. However, he was really good at tricking me into thinking he wasnt so when he actually did I was still surprised 🙂
I would maybe try to bring it up with him in a subtle way so that you aren’t making him feel bad if maybe he hadn’t planned something yet. Maybe say something along the lines of “I keep trying to figure out what you might have planned for the proposal but being surprised when you do it will be more fun” and say it in a joking kind of way. That way he knows that you would like a proposal, but you haven’t flat out said that you don’t think he has one prepared. 🙂
Post # 6
I would hint at it just to be safe. I like summerlove22’s suggestion. YAY!! So exciting!!
Post # 7
I picked out the ring, was there when he bought it, I knew when it was coming in and when he was getting a blessing from my dad. And he STILL managed to surprise the heck out me when he proposed!
I’m pretty sure that guys know their main job in wedding planning is the proposal. Maybe hint around a bit, but I don’t think you have anything to worry about.
Post # 8
I was in the same situation, my fiance and I went to look at several rings and after months of searching he purchased the one that I absolutely love about a month ago. He did not propose to me until this past friday and though I had been waiting (impatiently) it was still sweet and caught me by surprise! I am sure that he is not going just hand it to u! He will probably try even harder since he knows you’ll be expecting it 🙂
Post # 9
Oh, I would imagine that he would wait and actually propose.. even if you know about it! Def. wait and see.
Post # 10
Ha thats exactly what happened with me! But i kinda grabbed the bag when he got home and didnt give him a chance but thats just how i am!
Post # 11
I say drop hints about getting proposed to romantically. Casually create a story like, I read in a magazine how this one girl got proposed to (story)… Le sigh… It would be so romantic to be proposed to like that or (insert your dream proposal). hehe.
Post # 12
I always err on the side of blatant hinting. The funny thing is, a lot of times my FI doesn’t even pick up on the fact that its totally obvious, he does get the idea and follow through though. I’d let him know that you’re still expecting a romantic proposal, then the creativity is all up to him.
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2010 - The Glen Manor House
Give him the benefit of the doubt! I can’t imagine he’ll just hand it over. But of course, subtle hints aren’t a bad idea.
Post # 14
I too picked out my ring with my FI and was totally surprised when he proposed on our vacation to Disney World! I would say give him the benefit of the doubt! I am sure he has something special planned for you:)
Post # 15
it pretty much happened to me too… well…i dont remember how the ring conversation came out but he wanted to know in what kind of rings i was interested in.. i told him 3 stones or a big stone with tiny little ones around it, exclusively princess cut! lol this was back in the summer maybe june 2008…i thought i was getting it like right away, but nothing..then i thought it was going to be my christmas gift..so since he knew that i figured out he was going to give me the ring for christmas, he surprised me and he gave it to me in november instead..i knew it was coming, but not that day..i dont think it is not unromantic..he just wants to make sure you get what you want…one of my friend had the guts to get her engagement ring and change it because she didnt like it! i would never do this to FI…that is the ring he proposed with and i would never change it for anything!!! yeah, he got me a 3stones e-ring, but instead of a princess cut it is round..BUT i love it anyways!
Post # 16
Guys having their girls pick out their own rings is common, but guys handing over the ring instead of proposing is not so common, I would say!
Honestly if it were me, I would wait and see what he does, and if he just tried to give it to me without a proposal I would refuse to take it! I’d tell him, “What do you think you’re doing?! I don’t want to see it until you propose!” 😉