Is it true that you arent supposed to buy your own groom's cake?

posted 3 years ago in Money
Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Grooms’ cakes are a pretty new thing I’d thought and also the cynical side of me has always assumed that the wedding industry were quick to promote yet another way to extract money from the wallets of couples getting married! Either way, we don’t have them where I live.

For sure, I very much doubt that there is any rule that says the groom’s family have to buy it. So if you want one, go for it. 

Post # 2
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Busy bee

I think a Grooms cake is a relatively “new” thing, as I haven’t ever seen one and hadn’t ever heard of it until I started planning my wedding. I didn’t know there were “rules”. I think if you want to buy one yourselves, do it! They say the bride’s family is supposed to pay for the wedding too… how often does that happen anymore?

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

LOL What?! I have never heard that!  I bought our groom’s cake because it was something fun and cute to do for DH!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

We don’t do grooms cakes up here in the northwest really, but in all the stories I’ve read it’s always been the bride surprising the groom with some cool cake? That’s probably one of those antiquated traditions. There’s a lot of things that the families are “supposed” to pay for traditionally, but it’s 2014 and they don’t anymore lol.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’ve never heard that. My mom bought one for my husband.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We budgeted ours as it was one of the things DH wanted the most! Maybe it’s a regional thing?

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

What! That sounds ridiculous. If you want two cakes, just get two cakes. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We bought a grooms cake, the bride and groom buy it. It just goes along with the wedding cake. I did a cute one for my husband, it had his fav hockey team on it.

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

My sister is making our wedding cake and the groom’s cake, so technically they are free. But I have never heard of that either. I would just buy it myself. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

I have never heard of that before.  At the one wedding I attended with a groom’s cake, the bride bought it for him as a surprise at the reception.  Buy the things you want to buy and don’t worry about whether someone else should be paying.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

I’ve never heard of that… We bought our groom’s and “regular” cake from the same baker on the same price quote, paid by the couple.

Post # 13
mswallabyBee
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

Haha nope, never heard of that! We were prepared to pay hubs’ best friend’s mom to bake us a cake (she bakes wedding cakes as a hobby, to make extra money on the side) but she refused to accept our money and gave it to us as a gift. I wouldn’t expect anyone else to foot our cake bill, though!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I have always thought of the groom’s cake as a gift from the bride. She knows her man best and gets him something extra special. 

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

we didn’t have a grooms cake.  i never heard of it until the bee.  our cake and other desserts were more than enough for everyone.

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