(Closed) Is it uncouth to talk about what kind of e-ring I like?

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

The only way he will know what you like is to tell him. There is nothing wrong with sharing that information with him. There is also nothing wrong with going window shopping for rings, just so he can get an idea of the style you like.

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I agree nothing wrong with letting him know about what type of jewelry you like and what kind of engagement ring you would want. I know my boyfriend had such bad anxiety about picking out a ring for me as our tastes are always opposite. He bought one and took it back, requesting we go shopping together. It was important to him that I get the ring I wanted. 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I don’t think it’s a problem, especially since that’s exactly what I did!  I think it depends on him.  I mean, do you think talking specifically about engagement rings will stress him out, or do you think he’s secretly hoping for direction?  You could also go a sort of second hand route and tell a friend of both of you what you like, and have him take that friend shopping.  But overall, I would have the conversation.  All the men I know would rather have some input and have the woman love the ring, rather than no input and a lackluster response to the ring.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’ll jump on the bandwagon, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with talking about what kind of ring you want.  Guys aren’t usually great with hints so I think it’s best just to tell him! Smile

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Then he probably won’t get you one and you’ll be disappointed and you’ll argue about it.

TELL HIM! It’s okay. He probably wants to get you something you like. And if he has some direction, it’s win-win

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

It doesn’t take away the romance. It’s being realistic because nothing’s less romantic than, “oh yes i’ll marry you. crap, i hate it”. awkward!

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I dont think there is anything wrong with talking to him about what you want at all. It is a ring you will have for the rest of your life!

My FI and I actually went ‘ring shopping’.  We went to a couple jewerly stores and saw what the options were out there.  I had an idea of what I wanted in my head and I knew it wasnt something he could just go and pick up anywhere.  So we both ended up talking to the jewerly store together and provided pictures and a description of what I wanted.  I got to approve the wax mold of the ring then after that I was done.  I didnt see the finished product till he asked me and it was perfect! Exactly what I wanted! (plus it helped that I negotiated the price…my FI is bad at that kind of stuff!)

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Heck yes you should tell him what you want!  If you have to wear the ring for the rest of your life, you should most def like it!  He will prob be happy if you point him in the right direction!!

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

This is the man you want to spend your life with! You should be able to tell him anything!  So, there is nothing wrong whatsoever in telling him what you like… Unless, of course, you aren’t sure whether he wants to marry you. In which case, you have a completely different problem.

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t see a problem with it at all.  In the long run, he’s going to want to get you something that you’ll love…so he’d probably be happy to know what styles you like/don’t like.  Heck, my FH and I had  my ring custom made, I got to design it myself!  I was thrilled because I got exactly what I wanted and no one else in the world will have the same one, and he was thrilled because he didn’t have to worry about whether or not I’d like my ring! Smile

Post # 16
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Sugar bee

You could always ask him if he wants a few of your ideas or wants to plan it all on his own. 

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