Post # 1
I live in a big city. I’m pretty much limited to union halls, churchs, and industrial spaces for our wedding with maybe one or two nice, romantic type places. My fiance and I really want to have an outdoor wedding. We want a lot of natural beauty to show through so a farm, botanical garden, park, etc is the place for us.
There is a farm about 45 minutes outside of the city limits that is perfect. It’s naturally beautiful. It has a lake, a beauty covered pavillion, an area to get ready the day of, comes with tables, chairs, and linens all for a wonderfully reasonable price.
However our parents think it’s unreasonable to ask people to drive out there especially out of town guests who will want to stay in the city and will feel exasperated about making another commute somewhere.
Now I just don’t know. It really is the perfect place and the 45 minute drive is a straight shot down one road that encounters zero traffic but I don’t want to put our guests out.
As a guest would you be annoyed if you had to drive that far?
Post # 3
heck no! lol but i mean i live in san diego so i’m used to driving 30 minutes to just go to class. i think for one freakin day people should suck it up and deal!
Post # 4
Nope, our venue was about 30 minutes outside of town and we didn’t hear a peep!
Our guests chose hotels in the city as opposed to closer to our venue!
Honestly, I don’t think it really matters, pick the venue that YOU and your Fiancee want!
Post # 5
Last summer I drove all the way from upstate New York to Maine for a friends wedding. We turned it into a 5 day vacation. Then we went to another friends wedding a couple of weeks later that was about an hour away. No big deal.
Post # 6
It wouldn’t bother me at all. More than an hour between venues woutd be too much.
Post # 7
A 45 minute drive probably would not bother me. I had a friend who was married at a church in Manhattan and who had her reception on Long Island. It seemed to take just short of forever (really about an hour and a half) to reach our destination; however, her reception was totally amazing!!
ETA: Although my ceremony and reception were held at the same location, I should note that the venue I chose was about 1.5 hours from where I and the majority of my wedding guests lived, and just about everyone else, including Darling Husband, had to travel at least three hours or more to our venue. I had many guests coming from out of state.
Post # 8
My Fiance and I drove an hour to a wedding for one of his work colleagues last year without batting an eye. If they love you and want to attend your wedding the 45 min drive won’t deter them
Post # 9
Well thankfully the ceremony and reception would be at the same location so there would be no added drive between but both set of parents were convinced it’d be too much to ask so it really had me worry. I didn’t think it’d be a big deal, I mean I wouldn’t personally be bothered but I don’t really get worked up about things so I’m not always the best indicator. lol
Post # 10
I don’t think that’s unreasonable. But I live in SoCal and drive a half hour to work every day, so maybe my perceptions on travel times are skewed!
Where are the closest hotels to the venue? In the city 45 minutes away? Are there any closer places to stay for people who think they may be tired at the end of the reception? Also, I’m not sure what time of day you’re thinking of having your wedding, but I think 45 minutes of driving back to the city is even less of a big deal if you’re talking about an earlier wedding. (But I still believe it’s not unreasonable even for a late wedding.)
Post # 11
is the whole wedding going to take place at the outdoor location? if yes then I see no problem having the event whererever you want. 45 minutes 3 hours half way around the world! just let your guests know where it is and people who want to come and celebrate with you will be there!
Post # 12
If the ceremony and reception are at the same venue, then the drive time doesn’t matter. Anyone who wants to be there will drive whatever distance it takes with no complaint, and 45 mins is a drop in the hat to alot of people (especially since many drive that distance or more everyday to work). A drive between venues is another matter entirely. Either way, there is nothing to be concerned with.
Post # 13
It depends if its a late wedding and there are no close accomodations. A few of our guests will be driving 45 minutes however most of the guests are from out of town and will be staying on site for our wedding. We like the idea of being close enough incase someone decides to drink too much or anything like that.
Post # 14
45 minutes is nothing. About half of our guests had to travel around that distance to get to our wedding and I never heard a single complaint. Then again, quite a few of them chose to stay at the resort that night.
Are there any lodging options close to the venue? Even B&B’s would work depending on how many guests would need to stay over.
Post # 15
I don’t think it is too far. Where I live it takes me a half an hour to get anywhere. Do a lot of the guests live in the city and not have cars, could that be an issue? Have you considered offering a shuttle? I have been to a couple of wedding that have offered shuttles, one was a school bus they were able to get, driver included pretty cheap since it was summer. The added bonus is you don’t have to worry about people driving after drinking. Not everyone will use it, but it could be nice to offer if you can afford it.
Post # 16
I wouldn’t have a problem at all! We’re having our ceremony and reception at the same location which is about 30-45 minutes from the center of town. Our location is east of town and we’re inviting lots of people who live just west of town. Those people will have an hour to an hour and a half drive. Not a single person has complained or even remarked about it.