Is it usual or unusual. ..

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Totally normal as long as it’s not excessive! Everyone needs some “me” time!

Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I cannot understand people who want to hang out with their partners constantly.  However, I know it happens.  So, to me, it’s usual for people to NOT hang out constantly, but for others, it’s totally normal.

 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Absolutely!  But I would worry if it was a sudden change in behaviour or a constant thing.

It also depends on how its worded.  I mean I may say to FI occassionally… “Go out with the boys tonight! Go on get lost, I have a date with my other boyfriend”(referring to a book or something) but if he turned around to me and said “I need some space” in a cold kind of tone I would feel a bit taken aback.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

It is a must really, you need to recharge and have some me time, a simple take an hour to go read a book to a weekend to say a spa.  

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Pretty normal I think for lots of couples.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

Yes, it is normal.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Relat:  total normally in my books. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m going to say normal.. I am a SAHM and my FI works from home… I rarely get time alone! Rumor has it he is getting an office downtown!!! I’m so excited!! I don’t have to pack up the toddler and roam Target, World Market or the Mall to get awaY anymore!! This mama is excited to do my work for the day and be able to just spend time with an old friend… MYSELF! Sorry, I’m a little excited! 🙂 and he is totally excited to finally have his own office!! 

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Post # 10
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Bumble bee

Yes, it is normal and healthy for a spouse to want and have alone time.  

However, every situation is not the same. The normalcy and healthfulness of time spent apart depends entirely on the reasons for it and how that time is spent. 

Post # 11
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Helper bee

Relat:  I love spending time with my DH. He is my best friend. However, as someone who was VERY independent before I met him, I cherish my time accomplishing stuff without him. Even a day away just to run errands. And, spending all that time together can wear on one another, too. So, we always know when we need some space (we both start to get a little irritable) and spend our time accordingly. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

I think it’s perfectly normal to want some time to yourself. I know that I every day need at least an hour alone with no one talking to me to gather my thoughts and ‘recover’ from being around people all day. My FI understands and respects this, but if I just randomly decided I wanted to be away from him a lot more I think he would be concerned. In turn I’d only be concerned about him if it was a newly developed habit.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN

Relat:  Normal, as long as you do not want more time away from them than you want with them.

Post # 14
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Helper bee

Normal. I’d only be worried if it was a new behavior.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

Totally normal! when I want time alone I just go shopping all day!

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