Is it weird not to have any bridesmaids if my FH is having a best man?

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

We had a black tie wedding with just a best man and no bridesmaids.  It worked out fine.  He and my husband walked in together and he stood up and gave the officiant the ring when it was time and sat back down.  It was really nice.

The best man didn’t stand – he just sat in the front row, aisle seat.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 4 months ago by  FleeSircus.
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

In terms of symmetry, yes, it’ll look a little off, but who really cares?  If you don’t want a MOH, don’t have one.

I wouldn’t have the FG stand up there for the whole ceremony.  My FG (age 6) freaked out enough about just walking down the aisle – I can’t imagine how bad it would have been if I made her stand there while everyone watched her.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

That’s exactly what we are doing – my fiance is having his brother as a best man, I’m not having bridesmaids.  So I think it’s a great idea 🙂  I don’t know if our best man is going to stand the whole time or sit down – we haven’t gotten all that worked out yet – but I’m fine with it either way.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

becca89:  In my best friend’s wedding, I was her MOH and her husband had nobody. For me, it was weird. But that was just me, not the couple and in the end that’s all that matters. As long as you two are fine with it, that is what is important. And I think your FG could stand up for the ceremony. My FGs were 5 and 3 and my RB was 6 and they all stood perfectly. 🙂

Post # 7
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Busy bee

becca89:  Then say out of respect for your bestie, you won’t have a MOH at the head table, but you could have some general bridesmaids floating down the aisle and decorating the place.. 😉

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Yes, from first-hand experience, it’s weird. At first I was all “whatever, it’s my wedding, I’ll do what I want. No one will even care.” My husband had a BM and I didn’t have anyone. He stood at the altar during the entire ceremony (whereas, I thought he would sit after he gave my husband away). Everyone noticed and to this day when people see our wedding pics or video they always bring it up (“who’s that guy? Oh the best man? Why don’t you have anyone standing next to you? Isn’t there normally a maid of honor or something? That’s…different”). I wouldn’t care except reason why I didn’t have an MOH is a very painful memory, so it’s very annoying to have people constantly mention it. 

Post # 9
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852 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

 

becca89:  I think it would be fine to just have a best man and no MOH/BM.  If there is no one in your life that you want to have as a BM/MOH (except for the friend that is unable to do so) then it would be wise not to have someone fill the role just for the sake of symmetry.  I think it would be nice if thre was a way for the Best Man to sit after you reach the alter or find a way to make him a little less noticeable during the wedding ceremony. 

As you can see from the many, many, many, many posts….. bridesmaids and maids of honor are sometimes more of headache than a help….. trust me…… I know this first hand……. If i was to do it all over again I would have NO BRIDAL PARTY………

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

FI is having a best man but no groomsmen and I have 4 bridesmads.  Best man is standing by Jon and just the bridesmaids will walk down the aisle.  

 

Your wedding, your rules 🙂

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