Post # 1
We just booked out honeymoon for Bora Bora and I’m super excited, but I feel weird telling people. Is that normal? I definitely told my sisters and some of my bm’s, but for some reason it feels braggy? My friend posted her Honeymoon destination on FB for Hawaii and I was kind of tempted to, but I didn’t want to seem like I was showing off. We’re not wealthy by any means, my fiance is a teacher and has always been a saver and we still have quite a bit in savings, but I guess I’m just overly concerned with what other people think (probably in general, lol). Like the other day, my fiance mentioned to his dad, and he definitely made some comments. I kind of wondered if he thinks I’m high-maintenance or spoiled? I also mentioned that we were thinking about it to my Maid/Matron of Honor (who has young kids and is super budget-conscious), and I was saying that we want to wait to have kids till my student loans are paid off and we’re more settled and I could imagine her thinking, well kids>fancy vacations (we’re catholic and they’re definitely a priority, but not right away). I feel like I’m probably just overthinking this. My super sweet Future Sister-In-Law texted me this week, too, and I wanted to tell her, but they had a really low key wedding/honeymoon and I felt funny. I know everyone has their own situation and I definitely don’t have a “our life is better than yours” mentality, but I’m not sure! Yes, it’s lavish and extravagent, but it’s our honeymoon and we’re not planning on taking a vacation like this again, so I guess, I shouldn’t care what anyone thinks. Did anyone else feel funny talking about their honeymoon?
Post # 3
@vanessa7: I think you can tell people, and i’m sure if you aren’t braging and just say that that’s where you are going, people won’t think you are trying to show off.
Post # 4
I’m going to the Maldives and we are soooo excited that we both tell people all the time! I dont care and neither should you.
Post # 5
@gelaine22: Ahh, that’s awesome! The family I nannied for went to the Maldives and loved it! We were thinking about it, but decided against the long trip. I hope you have the best time! 🙂
Post # 6
I know what you mean…and we dont even have a bunch of money to brag about…I always make sure that I say we got it on airmiles! lol
Post # 7
We’re going to Turkey and Italy (not quite as extravagant as Bora Bora!). FI’s family does not travel anywhere internationally so I always feel awkward telling them about a trip. I have traveled the world since I was 4-years-old so its just normal to me and my Fiance happens to love traveling too. When I told his family we were going to Europe for a month in 2012 they just looked at me, undoubtedly thinking, “…why?” So when we decided on our honeymoon I pretty much expected the same type of response and its basically what we got, haha.
I’ve gotten to the point that I just accept that people have different interests and priorities, so I don’t feel bad telling people. I don’t go out of my way to just randomly mention it to people at work or anything, but if someone asks I don’t feel bad.
Post # 8
It’s not bragging to tell people when they ask directly or otherwise seem interested to know. IMO it’s bragging to tell people when they haven’t asked (even indirectly), and it’s bragging to post it on FB.
Post # 9
Ok, here’s the thing… Technically, it is bragging, but there’s nothing wrong with it. It’s something you’re excited about, not everyone is able to have this thing you’re excited about, but you just want others to be excited for you. While this is technically what bragging is, it’s not malicious or hurtful and you shouldn’t feel bad for it. We all brag about things under the guise of just sharing news, and sometimes even manage to convince ourselves that we really are just sharing news without asking for praise and such.
It just comes off awkward when someone brags while trying to feign humility, and there’s no reason to do it, because people have the right to feel proud of joyful about good things happening to them. If I ever (rarely) feel like sharing something braggy, I just say, “I have to brag for a second, I’m so excited…” and then fire away. Or if it’s seomthing people would know to ask about anyway, I save it for that time. If it really bothers you to bring it up, you can always wait until people ask.
Post # 10
@vanessa7: Just bring it up if people ask. Some will, I’m sure. Don’t post it on FB or anything. Bora Bora is on my bucket list. Enjoy it!!!! It’s amazing.
Post # 11
I guess you have your answer just by the responses here. Some WILL see it as bragging and others won’t. You have a decision to make. I see people on my FB posting where they are going on trips all the time and I never think anything of it. I see it as no different than posting if you are buying a home or new car.
Post # 12
@vanessa7: You’re not bragging – I think you’re a bit too self-conscious. Don’t talk about it any less or any more than if you were going on your honeymoon in, say, the next state over. Plus with the availability of easy credit, pretty much anyone can travel anywhere. If one of my friends sid they were going on a honeymoon to Bora Bora, I’d be excited, regardless of whether I thought I could afford it or not.
I wouldn’t post it on FB, not for reasons related to bragging, but because you don’t want the wrong people to know when you’ll be away from your house on vacation – I’ve heard of people getting robbed that way.
Post # 13
@vanessa7: It is not bragging! People ask you, you answer. End of story. By the way, we went to Bora Bora for our honeymoon too! It was a blast! Hope you’ll enjoy it too!:)