(Closed) Is it weird that we rarely ever fight? Anyone else?

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

my hubby and i never faught until we became engaged… then we were snapping at eachother until we decided to elope

since we made that decision – no more arguments, sniping or hurt feelings

we dont argue – yes i get moody and yes his personality is so easy going he usually hangs out in his office until im over it and then we can talk about it. we’ve only ever once had a full on argument with raised voices and even that didnt last long before we were both apologizing

sometimes he frustrates me or i frustrate him but we both adult enough to say this outloud without making it a big thing

and im glad… i was raised in a alcoholic household where communication was to yell and scream so im not going to have this in my home

 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Oh sure, my man and I get angry from time to time.  Actually I would say frustrated is a better word.  But we don’t fight much.  We tend to work things out quickly, don’t let things get too far.  Plus we’re both really laid back people.  I think we probably dated for 2 full years before getting in a fight.  We’ve had more since then, not many though.  I don’t think it’s weird. Every couple is their own entity and I think it’s important to not measure your relationship against other peoples’.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

We hardly ever fight. =) When we do, it’s usually me who gets frustrated with him, and he just kind of sits back and lets me gripe at him until I’m done — and then I feel awful and guilty, and he gets to make me feel better.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

My FI and I have been together for over 2 and 1/2 years and haven’t had a fight yet. Oh we have gotten a little snappish with each other, then we seem to back off and then everything is right as rain again.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

We’ve had one huge fight that resulted in us not talking for a couple hours and one other small argument in the last two years. We both get frustrated but we work through it. 

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

We rarely fight and if we do, it’s almsot always worked out in the same day.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2001

We don’t ever really fight either. We have been together almost 2 years and have had one big fight that only lasted not even an hour. Sure I get hissy around that certain time of the month, but he always knows thats why and so he doesn’t make a big deal about it. I look at these people who fight ALL the time and i just can’t understand why you would want to be in a relationship like that.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We get in little arguments here and there and they are usually resolved quite quickly.  We had to learn HOW to disagree though, which took a bit of time.  We’re both pretty calm most of the time, but can get hot tempered when it comes down to it. 

It used to be that I wanted to talk and talk and talk and he needed time to think and felt pressured.  So now we take it kinda easy on eachother when things start to get heated- he’ll sit and talk even if he doesn’t want to and I’ll give him some time to think on it, even if I don’t want to.  It actually works quite well. 

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

It’s all about learning how to communicate which avoids fights in the first place. We definitely had to learn, but now it’s VERY rare if we even get ina slight argument.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

My FI and I rarely fight as well. They really are disagreements that are always worked out. We never go to bed mad or wake up mad at each other. We always talk about things and never hold it in because that always makes things worse. This really works out for us. 

@Future Mrs M: I completely agree with you. I could definitely not be in a relationship where fighting is the norm. I don’t know how those people do it. I feel that puts too much strain on the relationship.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

We hardly ever fight either. We’ve had 2 big fights, one where I very seriously considered breaking up, in our almost 5 years of dating. It’s not that we agree on everything, but we do agree on basic values and ways of looking at things. We have friendly, respectful debates about the rest. I have never understood the mentality that fighting keeps it ‘interesting.’ It’s already very interesting!

It’s nice to hear there are other couples who rarely fight too. We’ve just started premarital counseling, and the book and counselor both make us feel like weirdos (or in denial) for not fighting.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We rarely fight either … at first I thought it was strange, since I was used to having, how shall we put it, <span class=”Apple-style-span” style=”font-style: italic”>volatile relationships, but now I’m just happy with the way we communicate. I don’t think fighting is a big deal as long as you can resolve it in a timely and thorough way. Congrats on having such a stress-free relationship! 

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

We’ve been together for 7 1/2 years and have had very few arguments and maybe like one occasion I could possibly classify as a fight.  We usually talk things out pretty quickly and move on.  I used to think it was strange, but now I just think about how lucky I am to not have to deal with fighting and the aftermath!

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