Is it weird to ask a friend you've lost touch with to be a bridesmaid?

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
3331 posts
Sugar bee

I don’t think its weird- BUT I think if you want to re-ignite the friendship, don’t expect the wedding to do it. It’s a jumping off point, but don’t expect to only bond over wedding plans and activities….you still have to put work into the friendship. Also, while its an honour to be asked, don’t expect that simply asking will suddenly turn your friendship into what it once was. Just my 2 cents 🙂

Post # 3
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

MKElsnerEST6.27.15:  I would err on the side of caution. The same people you knew back then might not be the same people now. I would only have people you are currently very close with, even if that means not filling your FSIL’s spot with anyone. Or maybe you can reconnect and get to know one of your friends again and see how that goes first.

Post # 4
744 posts
Busy bee

MKElsnerEST6.27.15:  Honestly, the weddings I’ve been a bridesmaid in for friends I’m no longer close to have felt like a burden.  I was very happy for these friends, but the expense involved (as well as days off work) for dresses, bachelorette parties, etc. just felt like a lot to me for people whose lives I’m not that involved in.  I would maybe consider your old best friend, but other than that, I’d leave it as is.  I’ve also been in two weddings where a bridesmaid had to decline, and in both cases the replacement bridesmaid was the most difficult to deal with, which I think says something.

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