- 3 years ago
- Wedding: Harbor Lights Marina and Country Club
Hi Bees…. so I have had my first bridesmaid casualty!! My Fiance sister was originally going to be a bridesmaid but she approached us and asked if we would be upset if she wasn’t part of the bridal party because she wasn’t comfortable with having that much attention on her. With that being said she has very mild autism and she is very shy and imature for her age. I knew from the very beginning that she wasn’t 100% comfortable with her decision to be in the party and I have always knew it was weighing heavily on her mind and I’m happy to find out now, 9 months before the wedding, rather then the day of!! Both my Fiance and I are ok with her decision and are happy that she came to us with her concerns we just want her to have fun instead of stressing the whole day about getting ready and wearing the dress and having to stand up in front of all the guests. Now starts my bridesmaid dilema…..
I’m gonna throw this out there… I’m a bad friend and I can admit that… I have several friends that I would consider close friends but due to life and distance we have lost touch and only catch up around the holidays and birthdays and by catch up I mean a FB reminder of their birthday sparks a long lost e=mail or long overdue phone call or pouring your heart into a Christmas card over how you wish you kept in touch better. And most of them live spread across the country so Ladies nights out are tough to plan!!
As brides and I’m sure previous bridesmaids how would you feel about reaching out to these long lost lovelies and asking them to be a part of the wedding party? As the long lost lovely would you feel awkward? I’m not sure how to approach the situtation… 2 girls I’m considering we went to college together and spent a ton of time together and made a definite effort to meet up every 6 months to a year for a fun weekend, but moving and life changes put an end to that pretty quick… 1 girl was my roomie throughout college we were really close but I graduated before her and we lost touch but we had so much fun together she was even my Valentine one year when my Boyfriend or Best Friend broke up with me a few weeks before! and the last lovely I’m considering was my best friend growing up… we have literally known eachother our whole lives!! But she had gotten married and moved to NY and we started running with different crowds and drifted apart… after she got divorced she moved home and we started to rebuild our friendship but within that year she moved to Cali and we try to catch up when she comes home to visit family or if I’m ever able to get out to the West Coast! Please help any thoughts and opinions welcome!! I do alreay have my Maid/Matron of Honor and 2 SIL as my bridesmaids… just feel like something or someone is missing!