(Closed) Is it weird to have a 2nd ceremony?

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@lazybee:

 

I think its a great idea. weddings are to celebrate two peoples marriage, and thats what you guys are doing all over again with your loved ones. Its a party!! so why not?

we were also considering two weddings as well, but it would be costy so were sticking to one- and i think its totally okk and even ROMANTIC to  have a second ceremony, as you would relive memories and have such a cute romantic night with ur hubby all over again. πŸ˜‰

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I think weddings should be about whatever you want them to be! two ceremonies? sure, go for it if that’s what makes you happy! 

maybe some people might think it’s a little weird though. I’d be curious to know what other bees say. 

my in-laws had two receptions, but for the second one, they did not do the ceremony. however, the bride did wear her wedding dress, and they had a grand entrance to start the reception. 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Ha! That’s almost exactly what we are doing!

We are eloping and having a family ceremony & small reception a couple of weeks later. Total guest list is 24 people. It’s going to be a short ceremony too, maybe 10 minutes…his best friend is going to perform the ceremony and my little sister is going to be my “MOH” (she’ll be the only attendant)…my dad will walk me…and we will wear our wedding outfits again (can I say I’m so excited to be able to wear my dreamy dress again!!!). Mostly it’s so the family feels like they’ve witnessed something and it was pretty important to my dad to walk me down an aisle. While our families totally understood and supported us eloping, you could tell they were a bit dissappointed to not be there…I felt kinda bad so this was the compromise because we wanted to make sure we did what was important to us first (by eloping). We are not going to exchange vows again though – it will be more a declaration/celebration of marriage. Then we will have appetizers and all of our favorite desserts.

We’re keeping it light & casual…it was stressful enough trying to decide what to do, how to do it, etc…I can’t imagine planning anything more fancy and elaborate, but that’s just me because while I enjoy looking at pictures and stuff online, the actual planning process is not my thing. LOL πŸ™‚   We are also keeping everything optional…telling people to just come for whatever part they want – 3 minutes, 30 minutes, 3 hrs, whatever…it’s a party!! We didn’t want anyone to feel akward if they didn’t want to come to the ceremony so that it’d only be for family that REALLY wanted to see it. 

So to answer your question…I think that’s an AWESOME idea!!! 

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would probably wonder why you were doing it again, honestly.  I think it would be better to show a video of your original ceremony (if you have one) or maybe do a short vow renewal but without all of the traditional aspects like your father giving you away.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@MademoiselleL: I agree. I would find the whole thing pretty odd. I’d be thinking, “They’re already married!!” the whole time.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’d find the wedding weird (at the very least, please call it a vow renewal) and would wonder why you didn’t just do this in the first place if that’s what you/others wanted.  I would understand (and enjoy) a second reception. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I don’t know. Normally I’m in the “do what you want!” camp, but as a guest I’d probably be wondering why you didn’t just get married with everyone present to begin with, if you were going to do it twice?

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

my sis did both! I almost did too but decided i wanted it all at once:)

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