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Is it weird to invite an acquaintance to your wedding?

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    Circus Peanut    October 9, 2010  

    So this is an unusual post, because usually we are all trying to get our guest lists 'down'! I am actually wondering if it's ok / weird to add a couple of people.

    There are a couple of people I'm thinking of inviting but I don't know if it would seem weird because we're not really friends. A wedding invite is a pretty personal thing...I don't want it to be strange, like, um, we don't hang out, why am I invited to your wedding?

    The scenarios...

    - A girl in my book club. We don't hang out outside that club but all other members of the club are invited.

    - A friend of a friend. Again, we never talk, text, or hang out by ourselves, but she is always at events where my group of friends get together (cook-outs, b-days, etc.)

    - Business partner of my brother. We've all hung out together socially a few times - don't know her super well, but my brother and I are extremely close. 

    Thoughts?

     
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    KMSull    August 7, 2010   Lexington, KY (via Atlanta, GA)

    My mom's latest guest list rule is "If you would be offended to not be invited to their wedding, invite them" of course, this means that because I'm not easily offended we'd end up ticking off alot of people. If you can't imagine not having them there on that day, invite them. Otherwise, its whatever you want to do.

     
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    Future Mrs. Martin    August 21, 2010   London Ontario Canada

    If you have the budget and want them there I don't see why not!

    If they think it is weird they just won't come but the invite is still a very nice gesture!

     
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    GaBGal    September 25, 2010  

    If you have the budget and flexibility then go for it. I think the book club girl should be invited if the rest of the club will be though.

     
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    littlemissmoo    July 18, 2010   London, UK

    I agree with the PPs. If you're able to invite them and would like to then there's no stopping you. FH and I are inviting a few acquaintances that our parents put on their lists and what's the worst that they can say? Sorry I can't come. So there's no skin off our nose :)

     
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    Birdie Love    May 7, 2011   CA

    You read my mind! I was *just* wondering about this (I am so glad my friend recommended Wedding Bee). There are a few people that I haven't talked to all that much in the past couple of years, not for anything bad, just people moving, changing jobs, super busy, etc. Even though I don't get to see them as much as I like, they are people that were around during significant parts of my life and I would like to share another significant day with them. 

     
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    Laylabelle    November 7, 2009  

    No, not weird at all! We did this, and I've been invited as an acquaintance before, no biggie!

     
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    Ember78    December 15, 2012  

    If you have the space and money and don't mind extra people whom you don't really care about, then go ahead and invite them. But generally, those people wouldn't be invited since you don't socialize on a regular basis or really know each other.

     
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    LittlestBirds    July 24, 2010   Seattle, WA

    I say absolutely invite them, with the following caveat: if any of them is likely to be planning their own wedding (or IS planning their own wedding) within the next couple of years, think twice about inviting them. You don't want them to feel pressured to invite you and your husband to their wedding, which might have a tight guest list.

     

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