Post # 1
My SO doesn’t want to go shopping for rings with me, because he wants for my ring to be a complete surprise… he would rather just have a few conversations about what I would like and then for him to go out and pick one that is appropriate. I don’t think I can really tell him what to get without having seen what these things look like on my hand first. His solution? I should go a few times to try things on, then sometime later I can show him my narrowed down choices. I’ve always worried that would make me look weird and desperate to be trying rings on by myself!
what did you do? Did you look by yourself in person? Or take other people with you other than your SO? Or just with your partner?
…if I go on my own, will I look like a crazy person???
Post # 2
i went chatted to local jeweller about my ring on my own. it felt odd but i didn’t care and he certainly didn’t mentioned anything or treat me differently. just go and if you feel awkward, explain. some sales assistants are chatty. say, my bf wants to surprise me but he also wants it to be something i love so i’m just getting an idea and will pass thoughts on.
Post # 3
I tried going ring shopping with my FI. Didn’t work for me, I just couldn’t focus lol So I went alone, and did my research alone, and I found the perfect vintage ring for me, and took him to see it the next day. The price was right, we were both happy, he bought it, and that was it! I just felt so much better going solo and trying rings on and thinking about what I wanted to wear the rest of my life 🙂
Post # 4
I picked mine from Ebay and actually bought it myself while he was away with work. Its no big deal. I had to get mine resized and I managed to get that done for when he got back. It was great because we picked it up from the jeweller together. I got a cute little proposal outside the shop but he was fairly sure the ring was going on my finger!
Post # 5
I didn’t look at any e-rings, BUT I did go into a jewelry store and ask them to size my ring finger (I never wear rings, so I had no idea what size I was). While I was there, they asked me if I wanted to try some rings on. I declined, but they offered, so I can’t imagine it’s that weird or that it never happens. And this was at a high-end jewelry store, too!
Post # 6
I dont see anything wrong with it! Tell them he wants to pick your ring himself, but wanted ideas of what you liked, so youre trying out some different styles, and if you find any you love see if you can snap a pic for him or have the sale associate write down any stock numbers so you can give it to him and he will know exactly what you liked and can go from there. I go in to jewelry stores by myself. I chose my wedding ring by myself, and went into the store by myaelf when I had to replace my ring after it was ruined by the stores jeweler. I picked a few I liked and took my husband back in with me to make the final decision. He isnt a fan of spending hours in a jewelry store, whereas I could stare at sparkly things all day. Lol. Dont feel weird about it! Just explain and they will bd more than happy to help you out!
Post # 7
I did! I am in a similar situation to you – my SO wants to get me something I want, but wants it to be a surprise and didn’t want to go shopping. I went to Cartier on 5th Ave and told them my boyfriend had asked me to give him guidelines on rings, but didn’t want to shop. The sales associate was so nice and said it’s really common, a lot of guys get too nervous about the whole thing and can’t handle shopping with their lady. She sized my finger and let me try on a bunch of rings.
I also tried a few on in the diamond district, but since there they are all about pushy sales tactics, they were less accommodating since I obviously wasn’t going to be buying anything by myself. 🙂
Post # 8
I used to work at a jewelry store, and I can tell you from experience that women go in looking at rings by themselves all the time. If you find something you like, ask them to write it down on the back of a business card, so you can give it to your FI. They’ll be happy to do that for you, and won’t think it is odd at all that you’re there alone.
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I think it may be more common than you think. We got engaged with a placeholder ring (family heirloom), and then Mr. Lk told me to have fun shopping for my real ring. Mall jewelry stores were good for browsing. Salespeople never batted an eyelash when I asked to try things on (which is good, because I shopped a lot trying to find “the one”). And even if they did, why would it matter to me what a complete stranger thought?
In the end, Mr. Lk and I custom designed a ring at a small local jeweler after I figured out that I liked elements of several different rings and nothing that was available pre-made was suiting my fancy.
Post # 10
Lots of women go try on e-rings on their own – it’s really common!
In my case, I look really young so I felt like salespeople either thought I was wasting their time, or they tried to humour me. It was really weird! I ended up going twice with my mom, and once with two girlfriends. After I had an idea of what worked, my FI was able to free up some time away from work and come browse with me. I will say that going with my mom or my girlfriends was a great experience. Going by myself was weird, but going with my now-FI was worse. Every store pounced on us and tried to pressure us to commit.
Post # 11
I shopped alone and did not feel weird at all! at the time I worked 1.5 hours from home in a metro area that has a greater variety of shops than our small town. So it just made sense for me to shop near my office after work. During my solo visits, I felt very welcome and probably had less pressure put on me because there was obviously no way I was making a purchase Alone. my FI made the trip once, the day he bought what I had chosen (We went for a nice dinner as well). i know it doesn’t sound too romantic, but Im very practical and it worked out really well.
Post # 13
If he wants to know what you like, well, then you have to figure out what you like! If it’s less odd feeling to you, pick out a few styles online in advance (solitaire, split shank, princess cut, any features you like) and then inquire more specifically in person.
My FI wanted to pick my ring as well, but wanted some guidance and some insight into what I’d like. I mostly looked online but tried a couple things on to see what sizes and shapes looked good on my fat stubs of fingers, lol
Post # 12
No… it’s not crazy.
And let’s be real – they want your money. They don’t care who buys the ring in the end. It’s in their best interest to let you try stuff on if there’s a chance you’ll come back. Not many people buy rings the first time they walk into a jewelry store… sales staff know this.
I went alone multiple times and never had any problems… staff weren’t even pushy.
Post # 14
I shopped alone. Part of the reason was that we are in a long distant relationship, so we were trying to get and idea about styles, what company to buy from, prices and warranty options. So, I went into the store that we ended up buying from with a list of questions and relayed the information back to my FI. I gave him my top 3 choices and he picked from them.
At first I thought it might look weird to shop alone, but the sales person was very helpful and I was able to do some further research before we settled on a purchase.
Post # 15
Whew!thanks everyone, this definitely helps. 🙂 I know there will be a few things we will have to compromise on it. Having some ideas of what I truly want in a ring in person should really help sort the really important stuff from the less important stuff.
I would like a secondhand stone (way cheaper + spreading out environmental impacts = win!), my SO thinks it’s kind of weird/bad luck because someone else’s relationship hadn’t worked out with that ring so why would we want to bring that into our relationship? (He was definitely surprised that people upgrade their rings!)