Post # 1
Ok, now before everyone replies “yes that’s inappropriate”, hear me out…
My sister (MOH) and bridesmaid friend don’t live anywhere near my city, and won’t be coming here until the wedding. So obviously they won’t be doing anything from afar since they both won’t be here, and don’t know any of my other friends. And I’m fine with that! I never expected anything from them.
But, it would be nice to go out and celebrate a night just for myself. I know my fiancé will definitely have a bachelor party with all his boys so I guess I feel kind of left out, even though I don’t have a ton of girl friends – I have a pretty even split of guys/girls from all different friend groups.
I think it would be weird to get everyone of both sexes together, because it would be quite large and they’re all very different and enjoy different things. But… girls are girls!
So should I try to arrange something with the 10-15 girls I know? I’m talking a pretty casual night out somewhere and I wouldn’t expect them to pay for anything for me, or dress up in costumes or anything. These girls I’m thinking of are from 3 different groups of friends, but I think they’d all get along pretty well. There’s 4-6 girls from each of the 3 groups.
Important note – they’re all invited to the wedding!
Post # 3
I don’t see why not. If you want it done right, do it yourself.
Post # 4
Traditionally, someone throws a bachlorette party in your honor.
That being said, I will be involved with mine somewhat as well. Mainly becaues my aunt & a friend of hers are planning many aspects of my shower & ‘lette party, and they aren’t 100% sure of who my friends are.
Post # 5
My MOH are planning it together. Nothing weird about it. I’m sending her ideas and getting things into motion.
Post # 6
Shit! I voted wrong. I meant to vote that its not weird. I planned my own party for various reasons and it was great
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016
I don’t think that’s weird at all. I love planning and being in control and I hate surprises so I’m planning my bachelorette with two of my bridesmaids. I think it’s totally fine to plan it yourself – especially in your situation.
Post # 8
@canarydiamond: + 1000!
@Pinkmoon: I don’t think it’s weird at all, I’ll probably plan my own bachelorette party too – if I decide to have one in the first place. At least it will be something you’ll enjoy 🙂
Have a good time at your party!
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I don’t think I would call it a “bachelorette” in my own head. But I see nothing wrong with planning fun stuff with your friends, regardless of whether you are getting married or not. Just plan a good time with friends and enjoy yourself. BTW… 10-15 ladies is a TON of girlfriends in my book. You don’t give yourself enough credit. 🙂
Post # 10
I don’t think its weird…my cousin and my hairdresser both planned their own bachelorette parties because they knew exactly what they wanted to do and all the details. Both parties were of course a hit!
Post # 11
@Pinkmoon: I think that sounds fine! I’m planning the Bachelorette party for my friend at the moment and she has been so involved with everything – and that is a really, really good thing. I had no clue what I was doing, so it was pretty awesome that she helped so much.
Post # 12
@lovekiss: Oh I agree, I would feel strange calling it that when it’s basically just a girls night. And it’s not like I’m gonna go buy myself a veil and a bride sash and make a big deal out of it.
Thanks ladies, keep the comments coming. It’s helping me decide what I want to/should do.
Post # 13
Ditto for me planning. I’m 37 and still somewhat sane. I didn’t want anything weird or awkward (my cousins mom went to his fi’s ‘lette party and it got weird) and I wanted to control my exposure and havin to babysit. We’re doing Painting with a Twist (I’ll bring hummus to snack on) and then dinner and drinks at a place that I love the tini’s at. Old people – my mom and aunts and the like welcome… bridal party exposure limited due to bad feelings now if his family even comes. I get to do what I want (never done PWAT) AND eat at my favorite restaurant while having 18 martinis. I’ve earned it.
Post # 14
@Pinkmoon: Where i’m from everyone plans their own (with the assistance of bridesmaids etc) It is rare that the bride would have nothing to do with it – I’ll definitely be planning most of mine! I’d hate to have nothing to do with it! I think it’s absolutely fine for you to organise it, maybe just ask them to help you out where possible to make it easier for you! 🙂
Post # 15
I’d say go ahead. You deserve to have a last night out on the town being “single” with your girls!
Post # 16
I’m sure there’s some stuffy etiquette rule against it, but really, I don’t see why. I understand the logic of not planning your own shower because there is an expectation of gifts, but a bachelorette is just a fun night out.
My bachelorette was a weekend away, which I paid for the accomodations for so technically I semi-planned it. The girls chose what we’d do, etc, but they ran things by me when they weren’t sure what I’d prefer. I never saw a problem with that, and they didn’t seem to care either.