Is it weird to plan your own bachelorette party?

posted 4 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Should I?
    Nope! Weird. : (13 votes)
    24 %
    Sure, why not? : (40 votes)
    74 %
    Do everyone together : (0 votes)
    Other : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    8044 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I don’t see why not. If you want it done right, do it yourself.

    Post # 4
    Hostess
    8587 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Traditionally, someone throws a bachlorette party in your honor.

    That being said, I will be involved with mine somewhat as well. Mainly becaues my aunt & a friend of hers are planning many aspects of my shower & ‘lette party, and they aren’t 100% sure of who my friends are.

    Post # 5
    Member
    2833 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    My MOH are planning it together. Nothing weird about it. I’m sending her ideas and getting things into motion.

    Post # 6
    Member
    6150 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Shit! I voted wrong. I meant to vote that its not weird. I planned my own party for various reasons and it was great

    Post # 7
    Member
    5373 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

    I don’t think that’s weird at all. I love planning and being in control and I hate surprises so I’m planning my bachelorette with two of my bridesmaids. I think it’s totally fine to plan it yourself – especially in your situation.

    Post # 8
    Member
    2000 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @canarydiamond:  + 1000! 

    @Pinkmoon:  I don’t think it’s weird at all, I’ll probably plan my own bachelorette party too – if I decide to have one in the first place. At least it will be something you’ll enjoy 🙂 

    Have a good time at your party! 

    Post # 9
    Member
    7318 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    I don’t think I would call it a “bachelorette” in my own head. But I see nothing wrong with planning fun stuff with your friends, regardless of whether you are getting married or not. Just plan a good time with friends and enjoy yourself. BTW… 10-15 ladies is a TON of girlfriends in my book. You don’t give yourself enough credit. 🙂

    Post # 10
    Member
    1723 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I don’t think its weird…my cousin and my hairdresser both planned their own bachelorette parties because they knew exactly what they wanted to do and all the details.  Both parties were of course a hit!

    Post # 11
    Member
    1651 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    @Pinkmoon:  I think that sounds fine! I’m planning the Bachelorette party for my friend at the moment and she has been so involved with everything – and that is a really, really good thing. I had no clue what I was doing, so it was pretty awesome that she helped so much.

    Post # 13
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    212 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    Ditto for me planning. I’m 37 and still somewhat sane. I didn’t want anything weird or awkward (my cousins mom went to his fi’s ‘lette party and it got weird) and I wanted to control my exposure and havin to babysit. We’re doing Painting with a Twist (I’ll bring hummus to snack on) and then dinner and drinks at a place that I love the tini’s at.  Old people –  my mom and aunts and the like welcome… bridal party exposure limited due to bad feelings now if his family even comes.  I get to do what I want (never done PWAT) AND eat at my favorite restaurant while having 18 martinis.  I’ve earned it. 

    Post # 14
    Member
    1152 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    @Pinkmoon:  Where i’m from everyone plans their own (with the assistance of bridesmaids etc) It is rare that the bride would have nothing to do with it – I’ll definitely be planning most of mine! I’d hate to have nothing to do with it! I think it’s absolutely fine for you to organise it, maybe just ask them to help you out where possible to make it easier for you! 🙂

    Post # 15
    Member
    462 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I’d say go ahead. You deserve to have a last night out on the town being “single” with your girls!

    Post # 16
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    2787 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I’m sure there’s some stuffy etiquette rule against it, but really, I don’t see why. I understand the logic of not planning your own shower because there is an expectation of gifts, but a bachelorette is just a fun night out.

    My bachelorette was a weekend away, which I paid for the accomodations for so technically I semi-planned it. The girls chose what we’d do, etc, but they ran things by me when they weren’t sure what I’d prefer. I never saw a problem with that, and they didn’t seem to care either.

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