Post # 1
I’m getting married in early November. Our ceremony is a small family reception that should be between 20-30 people. I invited 3 old friends, 2 are local, one lives an hour and a half away. We don’t have attendants due to the small size of the wedding, but these girls are closest thing to that.
None of them have suggested a bachelorette party/going out of any kind yet. I’d like to do something a couple weeks before the wedding. Nothing big, just maybe hanging out at my place then going to a local place for Salvadorean food and dancing. Is it weird if I do that, and if it’s my idea? Or should I write off doing something like that since no one else has suggested it?
Post # 3
I think it’s fine to ask your friends to go out with you to celebrate! I did that, and I’m really excited to get to see them and just relax with them. Your request doesn’t sound very demanding – dinner and dancing – so I would go ahead and ask them!
Post # 4
There’s still time for anyone to plan one without you knowing… I would wait a bit longer to see.
Post # 5
I definitely see no problem in asking them to go out for a night with you! 🙂 I think normally attendants plan those parties, so that’s probably why they didn’t mention it (b/c they weren’t sure).
Maybe put it as you would like to have the girls over for a little shin-dig, then dinner and dancing before you tie the knot.
Post # 6
There is nothing wrong with suggesting one! I say go for it and bring it up. However, I’d phrase it like you’re doing some/most of the planning, so they aren’t feeling like you’re asking them to do all the work for it. Your idea sounds perfect!
Post # 7
I had bridesmaids and they didn’t offer to throw me a shower, so I didn’t suggest one. I’d never suggest one with girls who weren’t in the wedding party – but if you do, maybe not call it a bachelorette party?
Post # 8
I don’t see anything wrong with that, I think the bride should be fully included in the bachelorette planning to begin with.
Post # 9
I would! Maybe don’t call it a bachelorette party if that gives you pause. But it sounds like a plan that won’t make work or stress for the other women, and I bet they would be happy to help send you off into married life with a fun night of good food and dancing.
Post # 10
I don’t think it would be appropriate for you to ask your friends to host (i.e. pay for) a bachelorette event FOR you. However, I think it is pefectly appropriate for you to say to your friends that you’d love to spend some time with them prior to the wedding and that you’d love to have them over to your house for dinner. You could then make them dinner or order take out that you offer to pay for for everyone.
However, before you do this, I agree with @happyface: There is still time for one of them to suggest treating YOU to a special evening, so I would wait a bit longer. Chances are, if no one makes a move, and you suggest an evening at your house, some of them may volunteer to treat you instead! 🙂
Post # 11
No it’s not weird! Personally I pretty much organised my own as my bridesmaids were not bothered.
Post # 12
Funny timing, before I could even ask, my friend just let me know she’s planning something for me! Thanks for your input, ladies!
Post # 13
I’m glad your friends have something planned! 🙂