Post # 1
I’d like to throw a little wine/cheese/appetizer party in celebration of my recent engagement (about a month ago). After reading some other posts on the boards, it seems like it’s correct etiquette to have this party thrown for you and not throw it yourself.
What do you think (from a guest’s perspective)? Is an engagement party yet another wedding related event that guests feel obligated to bring a gift to (like a shower)? Or, is it just a fun time to celebrate the couple?
We originally intended for an early spring 2010 wedding, but, because of venue, it’s looking like Oct 2010. I figured if I threw an engagement party in October 2009, it would spread the time out from a potential shower (to avoid wedding related event burnout).
Post # 3
we kinda threw our own. It was a “happy engagement/housewarming” party. Basically, DH was back from Iraq and we decided to have family and friends over. It was the first time anybody had seen my ring, set in its new setting and people brought some food/cakes over, some nice cards, and a couple of houseplants. We bbq’d up some burgers, I served some mean sangria, and everybody had a great time. So yeah, we threw our own engagement party. Who cares?! =]. We didn’t label it as such, really, though. I guess it depends on how you spin it =]
Why dnm’t you just plan it all and have it “hosted” by your parents, haha. Mine owuld totally have been game.
Post # 4
- Wedding: April 2010 - Marie Gabrielle, Dallas
I think it depends on the “theme” of the shower. I threw an engagement party for a friend of mine and it was just like a cocktail party. Most people just brought a bottle of wine, but didn’t bring a gift. I don’t think people would feel obligated to bring you something, but they might bring something anyway!
Post # 5
Oh PS i would never have thoguht to bring an engagement gift to an engagement party….a bottle of wine, sure, some snacks? of course (if i knew the hostess well enough to say “hey can I bring X?” cuz i’m just that girl) but realistically, I wouldn’t bring much more than a bottle of wine for you guys. That reminds me, we got like, 3 bottles of wine and a bottle of margarita mix =].
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2010 - Stage 6 Steiner Studios
I think it’s ok to host a party w/your fiance to celebrate your engagement. If you don’t want gifts, try to keep it casual and specify to guests to NOT bring gifts or just ask your friends to meet up for drinks at a bar. Congratulations and enjoy being engaged!!
Post # 7
No it’s not weird to throw your own engagement party. If someone else has already said they want to throw one for you, then you could always go that route, but there is no rule saying you can’t throw your own as an engaged couple. I think your timing is great b/c the engagement is still new and your wedding is far enough away as to avoid wedding burnout. If people bring a gift, it’s typically alcohol, a gift card to a nice restaurant, or their wedding planner’s business card…wouldn’t hurt to specify no gifts though.