Is it weird to use a girl for the ring bearer?

posted 4 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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1785 posts
Buzzing bee

I’ve never seen it done traditionally, but I see absolutely nothing wrong with it. A girl can carry a ring as well as a boy. I don’t think anybody would judge it either.

 

Do it!

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Etiquette Snob here… lol

There is no RULE on this… so do whatever works for you.

I personally think it sounds adorable and a great way to include a relative from your side of the family.

Hope this helps,

 

Post # 5
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2000 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I think it’s a great idea! I don’t think anyone will think it’s strange because she’s a girl. Besides, an 11-year-old can be trusted with the rings while I admit I would be nervous with a 3 or 4-year-old. 

Post # 6
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982 posts
Busy bee

She would love the responsibility and more ‘adult’ job, I’m sure. Sounds like a great idea. 

Post # 7
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242 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think its a Great idea and to make it even more adorable just call her princess of the ring like some brides call the boys king of the ring. 

Post # 9
Hostess
7568 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Totally ok! 

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@futuremrscap: It’s perfectly fine. And at that age, there’s no need to give her fake rings, she might as well carry the real ones.

She could match either the flower girls or the bridesmaids. With girls that age I’ve seen both done – either same colour as BMs, or slightly different like your flower girls are. I think it would look odd to have her matching you, especially when the flower girls aren’t.

Post # 12
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242 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

our 4 year old so was king of the ring.. BUT he only walked down the aisle with the pillow. Best man had the rings with him. Your FI is totally right lol

Post # 13
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242 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Maybe if you want to let her walk with here comes the bride sign instead of pillow. Just let bestman have rings. 

Post # 14
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242 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

One more thing sorry just read about dress color for her. I had a flower girl, two little girls walked with here comes the bride and two 10 year old junior bridesmaids. my colors was purple and silver so i had 6 bridesMaids that wore purple dresses, i had 1 matron and 1 maid of honor they wore silver dresses. My 5 yr old flower girl and two 5 yr old little girls wore purple petal dresses and the two 10 yr old jr bridesmaids wore silver petal dresses so their dress colors went with matron and maid and the 5yr olds purple matched bridesmaids. I’m going to post picture of  the little girls purple and silver petal dresses. 

 

 

 

 

 

Post # 15
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478 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

It’s perfectly fine, gender shouldn’t matter

Post # 16
Hostess
2662 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@futuremrscap:  Ring Bearer….the words don’t even denote if it should be a boy or girl)….I was really going to do this…my aunt had a problem with it….(.Undecided eye roll)  but I didn’t care. In the end though I found a better role for all the kids…because there was 2 older ones (girls) I made them banner bearers….so I didn’t have a ring bearer…but I totally think it’s cute!

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