(Closed) Is it weird to want my daughter to wear a dress that would look similar to mine

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Is it weird to have my daughter wear a flower dress similar to my wedding dress
    Yes : (12 votes)
    18 %
    No : (51 votes)
    75 %
    I wouldnt : (5 votes)
    7 %
    I have done that : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    Hostess
    7561 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I don’t think it’s weird at all! It will be cute Laughing

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I think that would be so cute! Plus you said flower girl so I’m assuming she’s pretty young so I think it would be adorable

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    As long as your daugther is 6 years old or less (possibly 7) then it will be cute! If however she is older, I think it could look odd. 

    Post # 7
    Hostess
    8580 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I think it’s cute. I want my flower girl to have a dress that looks like mine.

    Post # 8
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014 - Ceremony: St Patrick's Basilica Reception: Southern Cross Ballroom, Esplanade Hotel Fremantle

    No way! It’s super cute!, My daughter (who will be almost 3 by the wedding) is wearing the disney blossoms in jasmine to match my AA jasmine dress :). Tradititonally the flower girl is dressed as a mini bride anyway ^^, and the page boy as a mini groom.

    Post # 9
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Cute idea…. can’t wait to see the pictures if you decide to go for it!!

    Post # 10
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    I hate being the downer, especially when everyone else is so positive, but I do think it’s a little odd to have mini brides and mini grooms. In many European traditions, there is a decoy bride at a wedding, in order to confuse evil spirits and to make them stay away from the bride on her day. I presume that the tradition of the decoy bride forms the origin of the idea of having a mini bride. Now, there’s no reason why people have to stick to traditions or follow them 100%, and I doubt your guests will be sat there, saying “Eh? So the evil spirits follow the little girl?” (or even that they will believe in evil spirits at all), but there’s still something that’s not quite right about the idea for me.

    That said, it’s not as if I would be sat at a wedding and thinking “how weird is that… a flowergirl in a mini bride dress!” so it’s not a big deal, in the grand scheme of things. As a guest, I just want to have food, drink, not be too hot, not be too cold, and to have a seat to sit down in. Everything else is just secondary!

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    @Rachel631:  I understand what you are saying, normally I don’t particularly like it when the flower girls match the bride, mainly because I think it’s too much white, but also because it is a little strange. 

    HOWEVER, because the flower girl is also the bride’s daughter in this case, then I think that it is different. It is not uncommon for mothers and daughters to dress alike for special occasions (when the daughter is this young and hasn’t quite developed her own style), so I don’t think that it will be odd at all. 

     

    Post # 12
    Hostess
    3572 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I’m not sure where you’re from, but in some areas in the US “miniture brides” are fairly common, although I think it was more common in the 70s-90s. It’s more or less exactly what you’re talking about. She has a little girl-appropriate white dress and maybe a tiara, and walks down the isle with the ring bearer. I don’t see why she couldn’t throw flowers too? 

    I’d say “go for it!” as long as she’s younger than an adolescent. After all, you don’t want her to look like an actual child bride! haha. 

     

    Post # 13
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    @Everdeen:  “It is not uncommon for mothers and daughters to dress alike for special occasions (when the daughter is this young and hasn’t quite developed her own style)”

    Er… actually, I find that a bit odd and creepy. Much more creepy than having a mini bride. It just makes me think they are subconsciously saying “as a parent, I want my child to grow up to be JUST LIKE ME, so I can live vicariously through them”. It’s like when you see whole families dressed the same… it makes me think either “cult” or “genetic experiment gone wrong”…. kind of like the twins in The Shining. That said, I know it used to be more common in the 70s and stuff. It’s not uncommon in SE Asia either, where families get hand made outfits twice a year to celebrate certaiin occasions, and they get them all made in the same fabric because it’s cheaper (same in parts of Africa).

    Sort of off topic here, though… but is this really still common in the US? Do people really dress their kids as mini-mes in everyday life? Where do they buy the matching outfits? I wouldn’t even know where to start looking!

    Post # 14
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    @Rachel631: Well I’m not from the US so I can’t really say (I’m from Australia), but in my family it is quite common to dress alike when the children are young, though even now when we go out sometimes we’ll all wear red or blue or whatever, it feels nice to ‘match’. Though a lot of the time this happens by accident. In fact, once the entire of my father’s side turned up to a wedding all wearing the same shade of teal, that’s 3 aunts, 3 uncles, 4 cousins and 2 grandparents! But that was just a weird coincidence. 

    Back on track: My family is fairly crafty so often we do make our own clothes, again, especially when kids are young. The two girls will have the same dress and then mum will have a belt or just the skirt or trim on the shirt or something will be matching. It’s just nice to have a cohesive family look, especially for photos, it looks good! It makes it easy to remember who belongs to who (for family friends and such who get cousins mixed up). Or we will buy the same dress for the two daughters and then mum wears the same colour and similar style. It just looks neat.

    I guess you have to wonder whether it is really that different from going to a formal (or prom) and the boy having the same colour tie as the girl’s dress. By the same standard, isn’t that a bit weird? Or course then you have to think about bridesmaids all matching, they aren’t even in the same family! But the reason why you match them is again, so the photos look good. It all comes down to ascetics. 

     

    Post # 15
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I don’t think so It would be a little mini you. Very cute!!1

    Post # 16
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    My mom did this with me when I was about the same age as your daughter! (In her wedding to my step-dad) I say go for it! TBH I wanted to look like her anyways so it worked out lol.

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