Post # 1
I just went to my OB/GYN yesterday and got a blood test confirming that I am pregnant (yay!). Her nurse called me to schedule an appointment and said the doctor wants to see me at 10 weeks, in early April. So we made the appointment, and she just said, okay, see you then! and hung up.
Is this normal? I’m at about 5 weeks now, and it struck me as odd that they would not provide any sort of guidance/advice for the next 5 weeks of pregnancy–just, see you in a month and a half!
Should I expect more from my OB/GYN? Should I be looking for another doctor? I feel like I’ve read some places about moms hearing the baby’s heartbeat at 6 weeks, so apparently there are doctors who see patients earlier on in pregnancy. What do you guys think? I’ve only been to this doctor once and don’t feel particularly tied to her–she’s just close to my house. Should I move onto someone else based on this hands-off approach?
Post # 3
@hippomama: I think this is pretty standard. Though we are still TTC. I think the women who have had such early ultrasounds have had high risk pregnancies or numerous MC’s. I wouldn’t worry too much about it. Happy and healthy 9 months!
Post # 4
Not weird at all! Annoying, but not weird. In fact, when I called the morning after my BFP and asked for bloodowork for confirmation, my clinic wouldn’t do it! “HPTs are 99% accurate, so if you see PREGNANT then you can trust it.” SCREAM. It was very annoying. And they also didn’t see me until 10 weeks. The entire time I felt anxious and “lost”, but I learned to just trust my body. I didn’t have spotting or unusual symptoms. Otherwise I’m HOPING they’d have got me in sooner. Grrr. Anyway, at the 10 week appt we did get to see the baby! They tried to listen for heartbeat but couldn’t – but they saw the heart beating on the u/s and said it was strong. Sometimes if you have a little belly pudge it takes longer to hear the heart (size 12 pre pregnancy). I know how you feel though. I think if you really can’t handle it emotionally, you can go to those optional u/s places for peace of mind?
Post # 5
Glad to hear you both think it’s pretty standard! I guess I have to remind myself that she’s a DOCTOR, not my life coach, so she doesn’t really need to step into the picture until there’s something she can do to help the health of me or the baby.
It would still make me feel better if the nurse had been like, and make sure you’re taking a prenatal vitamin and not drinking alcohol in the meantime, but I guess they don’t want to give random unsolicited medical advice over the phone, especially since they don’t know if someone would be receptive to it.
Post # 6
I’ve seen it vary widely from state to state and especially country to country.
My Dr does the first appointment/ultrasound between weeks 7 and 8. They don’t have you come in any earlier for a blood test or consultation.
I will say that the nurse who booked my first appointment did tell me to make sure to take prenatals. But I think that was the only advice I was given.
Post # 7
They did the same for me – I ended up going at 12 weeks for my first ob appt.
My gynecologist gave me SO much information though. I basically called her around 8 weeks and told her I was just nervous I wasnt taking the right prenatals and I was reading the books but just didnt know what I should be doing right now – and they gave me loads of info! I was the same way though – I read online that taking *the right kind* of fish oil in the first and last trimester really help brain development and eaing certain foods are vital in the first trimester. I just wish they gave us a big list of the perfect things to eat and do to make a perfect baby – aside from the obvious ones.
Post # 8
@MrsB1015: Interesting! What was the info your doc gave you, anything you can remember now to share? 🙂 Maybe I will call their office and just ask to speak with her briefly to make sure I’m doing as much as I can right.
Post # 9
@hippomama: I don’t remember the details off the top of my head. I just remember I ended up buying a lot of dark green veggies and whole grains and citrus fruits and almonds…. they all had specific things they did to help the baby. It was actually really tough because when you are nauseous – a spinach salad with hard boiled eggs doesnt look as appetizing as a bowl of cereal.
Here is something on the fish oil and fish –
Fish Oil and Omega-3 – Researchers found that infants born to mothers with higher blood levels of the omega-3 fatty acid docosahexaenoic acid (DHA) at delivery had advanced levels of attention spans up to age 2. During the first six months of life, these infants were two months ahead of those babies whose mothers had lower DHA levels. The FDA recommends eating up to 12 ounces (two average meals) a week of a variety of fish and shellfish that are low in mercury, such as shrimp, canned light tuna, salmon, pollock, and catfish.
Post # 10
Luckily, I read What to Expect when we were first planning to TTC. That’s when I learned about pre-TTC doctor’s visits. It also helped that when I went to a new GP, I mentioned in passing that I was getting married so she naturally asked if we were planning to TTC soon. Otherwise, I wouldn’t have known anything either. When I called the doctor’s office to schedule an appointment, all they asked was when AF last came. I don’t think they even asked about my prenatal vitamins.
Luckily, because of my GP, I got all my vaccinations in place and because I scheduled a gyn exam and pap smear right before I TTC with my OB/GYN, then I got all my bases covered. Mine only asked about AF so they could schedule me 8 weeks out.
Post # 11
My dr didn’t want to see us until 12 weeks. I had light spotting at about the 6 week mark so see called and she had us come in. And then we started seeing her more often because I was labeled “at risk for miscarriage” even though the bleeding was nothing. I think we had a 6 week apt and bloodwork, 8 week scan and appointment and 10 week appointment, then got on track with 12 week scan and appointment, 16 week appointment… Etc.
So yes, don’t drink or do drugs, take a prenatal vitamin, call your dr if anything is odd. 🙂 congrats!
Post # 12
@hippomama: I think this is standard. I don’t remember how far along I was with my first pregnancy when I had my first appointment, but after that baby was born, I had a miscarriage early on before I’d even called the doc. When I got pregnant after that, I called at about 6 weeks along and they scheduled my appointment for 10 weeks. Even after I told them I’d had a miscarriage within the previous year, they just said “having one miscarriage after a live birth does not put you at any greater risk of miscarrying, this is a whole new pregnancy and there’s no reason to think it’s going to be anything but healthy.” It was not reassuring at that time, but she was right.
Post # 13
This is pretty standard – the purpose of waiting that long, as my doctor explained more delicately than I’m about to – is to weed out the early miscarriages.
I did have an earlier OB appointment and ultrasound (at 6.5 weeks) because I wasn’t sure when I conceived and we needed to date the pregnancy. Other reasons you might be seen earlier than the standard 8-10 weeks, as mentioned upthread, is if you have bleeding/spotting, a history of miscarriage, or other known medical issues.
Post # 14
@hippomama: definitely standard. They maybe should have sent you out an info pack, but a lot of OBs are reluctant to US early a) because there is a high chance you won’t hear the heartbeat and freak out unduly because it is early and b) beacause the safety of repeated US during pregnancy has not been established. If you’re on a high quality prenatal, avoiding alcohol, not smoking, and reducing caffeine intake to under 200mg per day (2 cups of coffee) you’re on the right track.
Post # 15
My obs standard is to see women at 6-9 weeks… I went in at about 7.5 weeks, although I know if they had scheduled me at 9 weeks I’d be wiggin out too!
Post # 16
It’s standard. My doc refused to see me and I had to find an OB to see me. After I found someone they wouldn’t see me until I was 8 weeks even though I was considered high risk due to diabetes and various medications I was on. But I did get in to get an ultrasound around 7 weeks because I had spotting.