(Closed) Is it wierd to have your mom as the maid of honor? Can I have your thoughts?

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I have seen it done alot of times at smaller intimate weddings.  I don’t see anything wrong with it.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I think it’s a really touching and sweet thing to do. Any old timers who have a problem with you honoring your friendship with your own mother like that can go suck a lemon. Go for it!

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

Okay, I am probably around the same age as your mom; probably older, and I don’t think that it would be weird at all. If you were my daughter and wanted me to be your MOH, I would be very honored. The only thing that I think might be strange would to have her walk you down the aisle and also be your MOH, but if you, your FI, and your mom are okay with that, then I say go ahead and do it. I think that the majority of your guests would really appreciate how much your mom means to you.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m not latina but I think in high school we were taught that it is/was customary in Latin American countries. If I’m mistaken, please correct me, but gently :). Plus, I agree with the PPs that if she is your friend and the person you want up there with you (and she agrees to it) I think its great! 🙂

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

@noritake22: I agree on the slight wierdness of having mom walk her down the aisle and then being her MOH.

I do not think it is strange at all to want your mother as MOH. I have seen grooms use their grandfathers as Best men so I say why not. It is a sweet way for you to honor her and the two of you are probably already knee deep in your planning so she will be just like a MOH anyways.

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2005

Being that I am mommies little girl…I think it is an awesome idea!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’ve been to a lot of weddings, and all the ceremonies had quirks: dogs; my friend’s brother, who is special needs in his wheelchair, being pushed by the nanny; walking in to the beatles; sand/unity candle/wine etc.; dancing down the aisle; jump broom/break glass/dip the bride…

If you think about it, isn’t this just one of those personalizations?

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

The last time a post like this came up, I was kind of surprised by the responses (very similar to here), because I think most people in my circle of friends/family definitely would think having a mom MOH would be weird. I also think it kind of takes away from her other important duty of the day — her role as mother of the bride! Especially since yours is being given the honor of walking you down the aisle.

I just wanted to point out that you don’t need to have a MOH. I’m not! I just decided against promoting one maid above the rest so as not to have to make that distinction of who was more important to me.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’t think it’s weird at all. I think it’s a great idea and would be really special for both of you.  Much more so than asking someone who you aren’t very close to do it. 

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think you should have her walk you down and then stand as MOH.  It’s unconventional, for sure, but I think it would flow very naturally.

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