Post # 1
I’m being bullied at work. I get “coached” (my managers way of saying b*tched at) in front of other employees, I never get recognition (I DOUBLED my sales quota for June. As in 2x as much as I was expected to get. I got NOTHING. Not even a good job. My managers said NOTHING.) And, most recently, I got passed over for a promotion I was told 2 months ago I would get. My manager pulled me into her office to tell me she wanted me to do this and this so I could get “up to speed” for this position because it was coming available, and then I got passed over for it. I deserved it, I worked hard for it, and I was told I would get it! I don’t get paid enough for my job, when I got hired they paid quarterly bonuses and then took them away, I didn’t get a pay raise I was supposed to get, and now they are expecting me to take on MORE responsibility for the same wages, but I am not good enough to promote? Oh please.
I literally leave work in tears sometimes. I am not allowed to take any vacation time until September (company is on vacation time freeze, long story) and the one time I have taken sick time (a grand total of 3 hours of it, I came in and worked the first 6 hours of my shift) I got hell about it.
My FI and I have discussed it and I really am trying to find another job, but should I just give my notice and move on? I don’t think it’s worth my sanity. This place spikes my anxiety, and naturally I am not an anxious person. I thought about trying to take stress leave but it’s unpaid anyways (looked into workers comp for it, sounds like more of a headache to make a work-related stress claim then to take the unpaid time. Also, not sure if my employer would pay short term disability for it.) If I am going to take 12 weeks off unpaid, I will just quit and find a new job.
What would you bees do?
Post # 3
@beecurse: If you’re this unhappy, I do tend to feel like you should leave. I just don’t think that any amount of unhappiness is worth a job (as long as you can afford the unpaid time). All of the best to you!
Post # 4
Go on interviews and hand in your two weeks once you get a job offer.
My company is notorious for fighting unemployment claims (therefore never paying them) AND for suing previous employees (sounds nice, right?). So when I leave I plan on having another job lined up so I don’t have to rely on that company for anything!
Life’s too short to be miserable at work.
Oh, and when you hand in your two weeks – consider making mention of the lack of “team atomosphere” in your work environment.
Post # 5
@beecurse: I am in a similar position at my work, same being overlooked, not appreciated, get criticized for stuff bey0ond my control, etc.
It definitely sounds like you need to leave, it doesn’t sound like it will get better, but I always think you should have something else in place first. Life costs money, and it goes fast when you are unemployed. Trust me, I’ve been there. And that alone will cause you more stress.
I am leaving on mat leave in a few months and i am sticking it out with my head up until I leave, and I will never go back. I too am at the point of being fed up to the point of tears.
I think you should find another job pronto, and give your 2 weeks notice like a professional. Never burn bridges, no matter how bad the situation.
Post # 6
@beecurse: I could have written this months ago. I ultimately left…and have never looked back. I hope you find a solution!! 🙂
Post # 7
Find another job first before you quit.
Post # 8
If you can line up another job before quiting, try and do that. From my experience, it’s easier to find new work when you’re already employed and planning to leave versus being unemployed because you already left, especially if it may take you longer to find a replacement anyway.
But, if it’s legitimately reeking havoc on your sanity in the way you describe and you can afford to not work while looking for a new job, go for it. You’ve got to take care of yourself.
Post # 9
@beecurse: After working at hell on earth (which sounds similar to your situation), I promised myself I would NEVER work in a place like that again. I was unemployed for 10 months, but in the end, it was worth it for not just the job I’m at now, but I emotionally, everything they had put me through.
Post # 10
I would find another job first, unless you can afford to live on one income for who knows how long.
There are way too many unemployed people out there for me to want to be entering that pool.
Post # 11
Start applying NOW, and in the meantime,
Could you take stress leave and use that time to go to interviews?
I am on active job search because I am soooo miserable at work (but sounds like you have it worse) for a month now, gone to 7 interviews, I took half day off 2 times. It’s not very easy. So if I could take some time off using such leave system and go to interviews that would be great for me.
ALL THE BEST! I know how you feel!
Post # 12
It stinks that you’re going through this, but I don’t hear anything that’s instantly walk-out worthy. I wouldn’t quit until you find another job.
Post # 13
Well, can you afford to be without a job? If so, for how long? I think that should factor into your choice. I completely understand where you are coming from. My last primary job (as I always have a bunch of other small things part time type work going on) was just like this. When I was IN THE HOSPITAL, they gave me hell about not being at work. I had no idea how long I’d be in there (a week). Each day it was, “Maybe we’ll know more tomorrow, not sure how long you’ll be here, hopefully leave soon”. I would tell them everything – that I hadn’t seen the doctor yet today, no clue what’s going on. At one point my (super nice) nurse begged teh doctor for a xanax for me b/c I was wigging out so bad. I was on the phone w/ work and she could hear them yelling! I was crying,a nd just so upset – partially b/c I didn’t know what was wrong with me and if I could do anything. Heck, I had an alarm on my bed so I couldn’t get up b/c I was a fall risk.
I was lucky. I had enough money coming in from my other projects (one that is regularly paying I can do from anywhere, just need my computer) plus withdrawing some money from bank and 401k (penalties associated, but worth it for me) to survive. I could have taken less money and just been super broke. I definitely didn’t live our normal lifestyle, but both my partner and I agreed it was for the best. Ideally, find another job and be able to hadn them your 2 months notice. You sound like a great employee – really focus on what you have done for the company, especially how much you have driven your numbers up.
Post # 14
I hope you find a solution!! 🙂
Post # 15
Thanks for your replies everyone.
I guess I needed to rant a little. I definitely hit the job search hard these past couple of days, and made a really great resume (thank you FMIL for being a human resources specialist!).
I just hate feeling like I’m not valued at my work. The promotion thing was like icing on the cake.
They asked me if I would be able to take on a larger responsibility with the same pay, and I respectfully turned them down for it (it felt GREAT, to be honest) 🙂
Thanks again everyone. I appreciate it!