- 3 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
So…I thought I had a lot planned for my bridesmaids and FIs groomswomen, but he wants to do even more. I’m not sure I feel comfortable dropping a few thousand dollars on 6-10 women when we’re inviting so many people and that money could be used to make everyone’s day just a little better.
Here is what I originally planned:Total Cost: $1,750 for 2 moms, 2 bridesmaids, 4 groomswomen, 1 groomsman, 1 jr. Bridesman, 3 ring bearers and 2 flower girls
- Hosting a Bridesmaids Luncheon with both mothers, bridesmaids, flower girls and their moms two days before the wedding. The bachelor party will likely be taking place at the same time, so I won’t be inviting groomswomen to this: Cost – $250 max
- Taking out both mothers, groomswomen, bridesmaids, flower girls and their moms the morning before the wedding to do manis and pedis: Cost – about $500
- Getting a present for each of the bridesmaids and groomswomen, some of which is for the wedding (a pashmina scarf) some of which is non-wedding related – a cute lily pulitzer duffle bag and at least one more personal gift: Budget $100 each: Cost $700 for adults in Bridal Party
- Getting a present for each of the flower girls and ring bearers: Budget $50 each: Cost $300
He would like to add getting all the bridesmaids and groomswomen’s hair professionally done the morning of the wedding. While I fully understand that if we tell them they must do their hair a certain way, we should pay for it – I really don’t care how they do their hair. Maybe no ponytails, but other than that go for whatever you want. I don’t even know if I want to have my hair professionally done for the wedding – though if we pay for theirs I guess I have to. I am having the wedding in an expensive area and a few of the girls have really thick/long hair so it would cost on average $100 per girl to get the hair done. It’ll probably be more expensive for me. If all we do is me and the bridesmaids / groomswomen, that’s an extra $750, if we also add the moms and the flower girls, which I think we should – we’re looking at an extra $1,000. Also, our ceremony is going to be at 10am and I know some people’s hair is going to take 90 minutes to 2 hours easily. Is it worth all the extra getting ready time?
My question is – for people that did this for their bridal party, did they find that it was worth it? Was it intended as a special treat to pamper your bridal party or was it because you had to have a specific look for your wedding?