Post # 1
My e-ring is platinum, so it seems the general consensus is that the band should match the metals. That said, it is crazy that the metal just doubles the price.
FI gets so angry everytime I bring this up, because he thinks I’m crazy to consider spending 2k on a band. He thinks I should just get white gold and that eventaully we will upgrade. I would rather spend more now and keep the same band forever. To me it’s more symbolic…to him, it’s a placeholder and also just a piece of jewelery. At the end of the day, he told me to get what I want and whatever makes me happy, but that I can’t complain about money if I’m willing to spend that much on a ring.
I am tempted to just get a cheap white gold band (with some diamonds of course)….but it makes me sad to think I would get rid of it down the road….and it will still cost me almost a thousand dollars for the white gold….
I think rings just don’t matter that much to guys, so in his mind he can’t rationalize why I would want to spend so much (even though he just bought himself a thousand dollar mountain bike!). I tried to ask him as a courtsey before spending so much, but all it did was trigger a fight!
Post # 3
@NavyBride2013: I’m with you. The way I rationalize it, your wedding ring is the only part of your entire wedding that is with you every day, every where. The cake, decorations, even your dress either go away or are saved away in a box somewhere. Your ring is the one thing that goes everywhere you go and if looking down at a white gold one only makes you think “placeholder substitute” then I say spend more and get the one you want now. And yes I think as a general rule guys don’t have much of a concept of how important the ring is. You don’t have to break the bank or get a huge one, but it has to be one that you like and that makes you smile when you look at it.
Post # 4
@NavyBride2013: I am a fan of platinum. Others may argue with me but I wouldn’t have it any other way. I also don’t like upgrading.
Post # 5
@NavyBride2013: IMO, the bands need to be the same metal if they’re trying to be the same color. Gold isn’t naturally white, and white gold has a different tint than platinum. I’m not sure that there should be such a significant price difference from WG to platinum-our jeweler had given FI the price for my ring and said that bc the price of gold is so high, platinum is basically no different. Maybe try another jeweler and shop around? For reference, my wedding band will be 3/4 eternity in platinum with G color VS diamonds, about a carat, and will cost $2,300. I have a few friends who have white gold e-rings and they always have a yellow tinge to it unless they’re freshly plated.
Post # 6
@NavyBride2013: Get your ring you’ll be glad that you did:)
Post # 7
@NavyBride2013: I’m in the same boat! I was just looking at bands at a store, and the salesman was trying to talk me into white gold because platinum “will get a slight patina over time” a.k.a. it grays a bit and looks less shiny. He told me they re-dip the white gold, which I knew, to make it look whiter. I asked about the platinum, and he said it is shined and buffed. I don’t understand why that would be more work; in fact, it seems like less work. I think it makes more sense to get a platinum wedding band so both bands age in the same way. My cousin has a platinum e-ring and a white gold wedding band, and on the underside it is very obvious that they are different metals. The white gold looks quite yellow compared to the platinum.
Post # 8
@NavyBride2013: He was fine shelling out the big Gs for the platinum e-ring, time to shell out for a matching band! That’s the important one!
Post # 9
I’d just get platinum… tell your SO that the different metals will rub and wreck your engagement ring lol. Not sure how true that is.
I don’t get it.. why wouldn’t he just complete what he started? It’s not like it’s costing a ton more, and it makes sense to match your wedding band to your engagement ring.
We custom ordered my platinum and diamond band from Birks (a high end Canadian jeweler) and it came to a lot less than $2,000.. but it is very thin (to match my e-ring). Just shop around.. and I know Blue Nile has good prices.
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@NavyBride2013: I know exactly what you mean! My guy will spend a ridiculous amount of money on gadgets but we’ll end up having a fight every time I mention a ring. He just can’t see why it’s so important to me.
I guess men just don’t get symbols. They don’t get that it’s not about how much it costs but about what it means. You want your marriage to last forever and your ring to be with you from day one to the day you die. In order for a ring to be able to do the job, it needs to be good quality. I hate the idea of upgrades, it’s just not the same.
So get your platinum ring, I think it’s worth it!
Post # 13
Here’s the thing: Platinum doesn’t cost all that much more and a lot of the high quality jewelers (especially online) do not charge that much more for platinum–not nearly double like a lot of the stores do. I don’t know why so many jewelers claim that it costs double–I guess they just want to make extra money on it! As an example here is the link to a white gold wedding band from Brian Gavin diamonds and it costs just over $1000:
The platinum counterpart only costs $200 more, not nearly double.
What style of wedding band are you looking for? Would ordering online be an option?
Post # 14
I agree…my e-ring is platinum and FI had matching band made at same time he ordered e-ring from the jewelry designer. The designer told him that white gold does not have same patina/tone as platinum, so better to go with one precious metal for whole set. I guess I have a more practical angle you can use with your DH: what will you do with that “placeholder” band someday? It will have high sentimentality for you as the actual band that you exchange vows with, so I doubt you’ll want to sell it, right? Why waste $1200 or so only to replace it in a few years with the platinum version, and have the white gold version sit unused in a box? (Trust me…I can rationalize anything!). 🙂
Post # 15
personally, I would say just get the platinum band now. I originally got an 18kt white gold wedding band (plain, no stones) and 7 years of marriage later ended up getting a platinum band because I was sooo tired of having to get it replated to keep it bright white looking. I regret not just getting platinum when we got married. We are renewing our vows this coming May, so my new band will be more sentimental to me then. I still feel sad though, because it’s not my original ring. I say just get what you want now…my opinion.
Post # 16
I’d go with platinum to keep your metals consistent. There are platinum bands well under $2K, perhaps consider a less pricey platinum option?