(Closed) Is it wrong to ask for my Ring bearers pillow back?

posted 7 years ago in Accessories
Post # 3
8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I think that if you were planning to sell it, you should have mentioned that prior to “giving” the ring pillow to the ring bearer. I think you should just let him have the pillow. That is what is typically done.

And, to answer your question, in my opinion, yes, it is wrong to ask for the pillow back.

Post # 4
391 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

No I don’t think it is wrong for you to ask however, I think it would be nice to let the boy keep it for his memories. But if you prefer to get it back, ask again. I don’t think it is worth creating a tension to get a little back from the pillow.

Post # 6
1297 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

 I would call her (don’t text at this point) and just tell explain to her that you meant to tell her BEFOREhand that you wanted to sell it and that you will take it back in whatever condition it is in.

Post # 7
1297 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would want my ring bearer pillow back as a keepsake, so I’m telling my ringbearer that beforehand.

Post # 9
1940 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I am planning on keeping mine.  However, if my nephew wanted it I would let him have it.  I think it is something that should have been handled at the wedding though.  I plan on collecting mine from him after the ceremony.  I don’t plan to sell it.  I just want it because I love the hankie I made it out of. 

Post # 10
18645 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I don’t really understand why a 6 year old boy would want to keep a girly little pillow anyway?

It sounds to me like you said you were selling everything beforehand, you just didn’t say it specifically about the pillow.

Post # 13
4485 posts
Honey bee

If you planned to sell it, you should have very clear in the beginning. At this point, it is strange to ask for it back and would probably be better to accept it as a misunderstanding and let it go. A pillow is not worth wrecking a friendship over though, regardless if his mom was a crappy bridesmaid or not.

Post # 15
141 posts
Blushing bee

She is being rude by going on about it… I can’t imagine a 6 year old boy would really care about a little fluffy ring pillow — now or in the future.  He probably just took it because he thought he was supposed to.  Don’t feel bad about asking for it back.  But if she can’t find it or it’s ruined, just let it go.

Post # 16
711 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Its kinda weird to ask for it back now especially because he has had it for a couple weeks. If he has been playing with it it may not be in the very  best condition anyways. For whatever reason he seems to be attached to it – I would just let him keep it. I can understand your frustration about the money, but it kinda seems like what is done is done. I dont think it would be worth it to start a fight now. As a six year old he might not understand why its being taken away now –  the mom understands but he doesnt. It just seems kinda mean…

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