is it wrong to have two wedding rings?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
2416 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I have an e-ring and plan on getting two bands: 1 band that is custom made to fit my e-ring and 1 plain platinum band. I’m a nurse and it just isn’t practical, safe or clean for me to wear rings to work but I think a plain band will be easily cleaned and with rounded edges won’t degrade the integrity of my gloves. That being said, the sentiment won’t be lost, your e-ring will always be your e-ring!!!


Post # 4
1925 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think it’s perfectly fine to have rings in two different sizes.  It’s not like you’re doing it to be vain or anything, you’re doing it so you can show you’re married even if your arthritis is flaring up or not.  Both of my parents have arthritic fingers and they don’t wear wedding bands because of it.  I think they wish they could though.  

If I was in your position, I’d probably get two rings too.  

Post # 5
380 posts
Helper bee

I think that sounds like a great idea! It’s not the ring itself that holds the sentiment – it’s what it represents.

Post # 6
53 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2004

@stokieGal:  Sorry to hear about your arthritis…

I sometimes get a little bit of swelling in my hands ( I also suffer from

Arthritis) and I had 2 pregnancies, witj which I gained weight  

I’m not sure how significant your swelling is …

So, this is what I have done:

I had my engagement ring resized up 1… From 6 to 7. 

My fingers are not as big, so, I got 2 thin Plain gold bands (2 mm)

And a matching eternity band to match my engagement ring (3 mm.) all size 6. 

I put the  wedding bands on top of my ER to keep it in my finger

Because I don’t ever take it off (except to clean it). 

My ER is loose but I know it won’t come off.  

Have you considered having your ER resized?? 

I would not feel bad about having 1, 2, 3 or more rings.  It should be

Whatever works best for you and your health.  Good luck!

Post # 7
1245 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@caffeiney:  <– what she said.

I have more than one wedding band, a plain one for work (work at a hospital) and my diamond one for those times I want to be more sparkly. It’s the symbolism and not the physical ring itself that’s what’s important to me so that’s why I don’t find it a big deal to change it around.

I got my plain band from and I spent less than $60.

Post # 9
2442 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

It is not bad at all to have two rings!  You have a more than a legitimate reason to have two rings.  There are people who lose rings and replace them.  There are people who upgrade to a more expensive or fancier ring.  And… there are people like me who want more than one band only to be able to switch things up every now and then.  Of course it is not wrong to have two wedding rings.  

Post # 10
1471 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Thats a great solution you came up with! That way you still get to have a ring on that finger 🙂

Post # 11
141 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would have more than one ring if couldn’t always wear one because of sizing issues.  I think it is ok to have multiple rings no matter the reason behind them (occupational, physical or otherwise) and the sentiment isn’t lost because what they symbolize is larger than the physical representation. 

Post # 12
3982 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I don’t think there is anything wrong with having two rings! I do. I have the one that does with my e-ring and the one Mr. Hedgie bought me to wear to work. The second one is super cheap and has fake diamonds in it so if it gets messed up, it is no big deal to replace. And if a “diamond” gets lost, it wont really matter.

Post # 13
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

i have 2 wedding rings, one is a diamond band for when i wear my ering and eternity band and the other is a plain gold band that i wear 99% of the time…. so i guess i haev 4 rings actually

Post # 14
35 posts
  • Wedding: September 2012

You’ll never lose the sentiment of your original ring, especially as you have such a legitimate reason for having another. I am a Doctor so for the same reason as some of the girls above I’m getting two rings, an eternity band and a cheap, plain band to be worn at work. It makes sense to have one for work which holds no sentiment and can be replaced if necessary. (And it’s a great excuse for extra ring shopping!)

Post # 14
22 posts

stokieGal :  I do wear one in each hand because I am Eastern Orthodox. Our wedding finger is in the right hand so there I wear the one blessed in church  (usually just the band as I am right handed and the ering has a high profile). Because I live in US, I wear one of two other I own in my left so there’s no doubt I’m married.

Post # 15
2035 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

stokieGal :  a really good jeweler can put a tiny hinge and clasp on you rings so they can be put on without going over your knuckle and can be easily removed if your fingers swell.

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