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Personally, I think you should invite her. She is part of the bridal party and should have the option of whether or not she would like to attend. It might be the opportunity that you need to get to know her better. You are marrying into this family, so she will be a part of your life for a very long time.
Sorry you are in this position...if she weren't a BM I would have voted differently. But since she is I tend to think that she should be included in your wedding festivities, esp. because your other BMs will be there. Did you see the movie "The Hangover?" They had an incredible bonding experience, ha ha!
Ettitquite says that its basically impossible to do this without being rude especially since she hasnt actively done anything to you. Have you tried hanging out with her before? What was that experience like? Perhaps she may make the decision not to attend if it is not her cup of tea. Charge it to your other bridesmaids to make sure that she has fun....I really think it would be rude not to invite her specifically cause she is in the bridal party ya know
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Invite her, but commit yourself to having a good time. It's not your job to entertain the BMs (if anything it's quite the opposite) so if she is a Debbie Downer you are in no way responsible for her attitude. She might suprise you, and it will be a good bonding experience for y'all.
I agree with mg1363, invite her- but don't make it your focus to see if she's having fun, or even to let her affect you so much...go with the flow, enjoy your closest friends, don't have high expectations for the SIL and she may surprise you!
There is nothing that will loosen a person up more than a trip to Vegas. I'm told I had a very good time, last time I went. 
I have to agree with all the others here on this one. Invite her but do your own thing. You're marrying into the family, best not to start off on the wrong foot. Maybe you'll have a bonding experience and become bff's? 
Honestly if you don't like her enough to go o your bachelorette trip she shuldn't be a bridesmaid.
Honestly if you don't like her enough to go o your bachelorette trip she shuldn't be a bridesmaid.
@mg1363: Totally agree!
If she wasn't in the bridal party I would say don't bother inviting her, but since she is I don't think there's a way you can get around it without seeming rude.
If she weren't a bridesmaid, I'd have voted differently. However, she's in your wedding party, she'll be family soon. You're kind of stuck. Make the best of it - don't EXPECT her to be terrible or she'll live up to those expectations.
Well it would look and set a wrong impression if you did not invite her since she is a BM. I would just suck it up and invite her. It she wasn't a BM then it would be a little of a differant mannero
I would definately invite her. I imagine that your maid of honor and other bridesmaids will be setting up most of the plans. I say invite her and if she goes, just have a good time! It is not your responsibility to make sure she is having a good time. Set-up things that will be fun and don't let her bother you!
I think you should invite her but I agree with PPs, make sure you concentrate on having fun. What a great place to get to know her though, I hope you have a fabulous trip! Can someone really be a downer in Vegas? I hope not. Since she is a BM she should be included in the bachelorette trip but you are the guest of honor, you should be able to have a great time without worrying!
I think its not even a question. You don't ask someone to be in your bridal party and then exclude them from the bachelorette party. Sorry but I think thats TERRIBLY rude. If you don't like her then you shouldn't have asked her to be your BM.
I think if you don't want her there then don't invite her. But he prepared for possible backlash. Maybe you can have a night out with friends at some point and you can invite her, have it be a mini bachl. party, then she'll still be involved. Either way, you're in a tough position and it's hard for any of us to say what it right for you. You'll get a lot of varied opinions on here about what you should do but I suggest taking a step back and do what's right for you, regardless of whether someone who doesn't know you or your entire situation says that it's rude or not. It's not the end of the world if she doesn't come. I'm debating whether or not to invite my FSIL who's a BM too, for different reasons, but still it's a hard decision and I am NOT going to ask the hive about it. People get hung up on tradition and what they would do but it's hard for people to put themselves in others shoes sometimes. You'll figure it out and it will all work out in the end.
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So i have a little dilemma Id like some input on.... my future sister in law is going to be one of my BM but we're not close @ all. My sisters are planning a bachelorette trip to Vegas and want to start inviting those I want to be there. I'm for sure inviting my other 2 BMs. I really dont want her to go... Im pretty sure she'll be more of a Debby Downer and I dont want to be worrying about her having a good time.
Is it really bad if I dont invite her?