Post # 1
I was trying to find info on this with no such luck!
My fiance and I decided not to register for the wedding but my mom/bridal party are throwing me a bridal shower a few weeks before the wedding. My mom insists I register for this since the gift opening is the main part of the bridal shower. I have thought about putting together a small registry for this based on the number of people who come to this.
Is it rude to register for the shower and not the wedding?
Post # 3
It is fine to do that. If there is no registry, wedding gifts are often cash or cheques.
Post # 4
That’s what I’m doing – it’s pretty standard with my culture.
Post # 5
No, it’s fine – but be aware that if you don’t take the registry down, people will use it for the wedding. And they will probably be all like “OH MY GOSH everything on your registry is bought, you need to add more stuff!” I can’t believe how much harrassment I have gotten over the registry (we registered for about 75 things). I appreciate everyone’s generosity, but dude, there’s only so much we can think of to replace.
So, my suggestion, if you don’t want to add a ton, is have the registry private until your shower invites go out and then make it private again right after the shower, and tell people who aren’t invited to the shower that you are very blessed to have everything you need and haven’t registered anywhere.
Man, when people get a whiff of your registry, they seem to really want to buy off of it and to have lots of options and to ask questions about it. Wasn’t anticipating that at all.
Post # 6
We were wondering about this too! Thanks for posting!
Post # 7
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@julies1949: I wish they did that in my circle! If you don’t register down here you end up with ugly picture frames and useless servingware that doesn’t match anything (they could at least get traditional white or plain glass.)
Post # 8
Don’t think people register separately for the events.
Post # 9
I think that’s what I’ll do – a small registry enough for the people coming to the shower and I’ll put a guest password up until the invites go out and again after the shower. I don’t want guests to think its for the wedding – I’ll name it something other then “wedding”. Thanks
Post # 10
We only registered once. I have never heard of having two registries. People bought of our registry for both the shower and wedding. Most people just gave cash at the wedding though.
Post # 11
I have never heard of registering for your wedding. Where I come from, when people ask where you are registered at, it’s for the shower. You put the little cards from the stores you are registered at in the shower invitations.
Post # 12
I didn’t know they were supposed tO be separate. In my experience the couple just registers once and the guests can either choose to give a gift from the registry at the bridal shower or at the wedding, or both if they prefer to give a small gift at each event.
Post # 13
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
Ummm, why would you NOT have a registry? You’re only cheating yourself. Just make a registry for the bridal shower and then keep it open for the wedding.