Post # 1
I don’t belong to a church so I found a local Interfaith Minister online and she gave me a price of $450. I’m having a small, basic ceremony & cocktail & hors de hoerves reception. I had only planned on about a $250 donation to a Pastor or their church to do our service and I let her know that, and she thought I was a decent sort of person and said she would do it for the $250. That’s awesome, right, but I feel kind of terrible because the ceremony truly is the most important aspect, but I’m spending 4 times that on alcohol for the party afterward. Is this a normal ratio or what????
She only has to travel about 15 miles for a 15 minute ceremony and said she won’t expect to attend the rehearsal dinner or stay much past the ceremony, all of which is fine with me. I just don’t want to stand there at the altar feeling guilty for bargaining with the person who’s making my marriage official, knowing what I spent on my dress and chaircovers and decorations….it’s not like I’m unemployed or broke, but my budget is tight and this is one of the last things I’m booking. I felt like a tool when we were talking about what we do for a living because we have decent jobs…but we just bought a house and are paying for this thing ourselves so stuff adds up super-quick…agghhh
Post # 3
Thats similar to what I am paying!
Don;t worry about it – alcohol is expensive… and worth it 😉
Post # 4
I think that’s fine! Seriously, alcohol is expensive! Also, she’s not making a big trip or anything! I think it’s all going to be fine 🙂
Post # 5
We didn’t spend anything on our officiant because he was our brother in law, and we spent a TON on the bar (that’s what you get when you underestimate consumption :/). Honestly, the ceremony is always going to be so much cheaper than the reception. For everyone. We all know the ceremony is the important part of the day, but the reception is the gift you give your guests for supporting and loving you and your new husband. I wouldn’t worry about it.
Post # 6
Um… our officiant is free and our alcohol will be about 1k. so I’d say its ok 🙂
Post # 7
I think that’s more than fair. If she’s willing to do it, I don’t know what there is to feel guilty about.
The way I look at it, it really doesn’t have anything to do with what you’re spending on the rest of the wedding.
Post # 8
- Wedding: July 2010 - The Tower Club
Honestly (and I’ll blog about this later) how important something is isn’t always related to costs.
If the ceremony is the most important part of the day, you can show that by the time and effort you put into designing it and the solemnity of the ceremony. But there’s no way that 15 minutes (plus necessary prepwork) by one person is going to match the cost for food & drinks for your entire guest list. It’s just logistics.
Post # 10
Umm yeah. Our officiant was the cheapest part of our wedding. $150. The bar was… considerably more.
Post # 11
Totally normal. Most officiants run between $100 – $500. Alcohol is way more expensive, especially open bar!
Post # 12
Meh, our officiant was $200 and our open bar was $700ish.
Post # 13
I don’t understand comparing the two. Obviously the ceremony is the most important part, yes, but officiants come in all price ranges. Alcohol is expensive by default, no matter how much or little you serve. The fact that the alcohol costs more has nothing at all to do with the importance factor of each. Unfortunately though, many people do put more importance on the alcohol than the officiant.
Post # 14
My officiant charges $250. If he charged $25/person, I’d probably be getting married at a courthouse!
Post # 15
I would have thought this was the case for almost all weddings. We paid $500 for our celebrant. Only our dancing music was cheaper than that, because we used an iPod! I don’t think what you pay for a celebrant signifies the importance of your ceremony – that comes from the ceremony itself.
Post # 16
Open bar is usually WAY more expensive than an officiant.