Post # 1
So one of my good friends (she is also a bridesmaid) fell in love with a beautiful Maggie Sottero dress that she saw in a magazine a few months ago. She is not engaged yet, but is thinking she will be this winter. She had me come with her to try this dress on (I was not yet engaged either). I saw her in it and it looked amazing! She said she knows that she will choose that dress when they finally do get engaged.
The problem is that I think I love the dress too. I at least want to try it on just to see, but then I am afraid I will love it and want to buy it. I couldn’t do that to her though, especially beings she is one of my bridesmaids…but she is not even engaged. And what if once she is engaged she finds a different dress??
I need help!
Post # 3
Oh man. Tough call. Can you find something REALLY similiar? Different line, a little different?
Post # 4
Ouch, that’s a tough spot to be in. If she was a really good friend of mine, I’d probably keep looking for a dress, one that’s similar perhaps. But she will inevitably feel awful if you get the dress simply because you’re getting married first. I’d be devastated if it happened to me. I’m sure you can find something comparable. I guess you could ask her how she’d feel, but be prepared for her to be possessive of the dress.
Post # 5
I know I’m in the minority in this, but I would be ok with wearing the same dress as my friend. It might be worth asking her even though odds aren’t in your favor. Otherwise, I’d say you should be a good friend and look elsewhere.
Post # 6
I would be fine wearing the same dress but only as long as she is. I think that most girls would not be ok with it and while she may not say anything, she would probably be upset. Maggie dresses tend to look similar to each other sometimes. I think the best thing to do is take a picture to a bridal salon and ask for something similar, but not the exact one. When I tried on dresses, I ended up narrowing it down to 3 that were all almost exactly the same but had a touch of difference. One had straps, one was satin and one was taffeta but they all had the same exact look. I’m sure you can find something very similar that would avoid upsetting your friend.
I also would like to say that I think it’s a bit weird that she already tried on the dress and isn’t engaged. Cart before horse?
Post # 7
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Don’t do it! There are millions of dresses out there, and many of them are similar. Think about what you would do if she did that to you! It’s kind of stealing her thunder in a way, and making her feel less special about the details she chose.
Now, she’s not engaged yet so she hasn’t really decided yet and has time, so if you really really want it, TALK to her beforehand to see if that’s the dress she’ll still want, even a few months down the line. Don’t be sneaky about it…you could lose yourself a bridesmaid & friend.
Post # 8
If I were you, I’d take a pass on the dress. It is clearly a very big deal to her and this is oen of those big ‘friend’ favors you do for each other. And in the grand scheme of things, really no big deal. There are millions of dresses out there, you can get exactly the same style from a different designer.
Post # 9
IMO it is not a good idea. there are a ton of dresses out there, maybe just aviod that one. Or leave it as a last resort. If you are really set on it… talk to her and see how she feels.. you never know.
Post # 10
This is a tough spot especially since she picked you to go look at this dress with her. Some girls might be ok wearing the same dress (even you) but your friend might not be. I’d try to find a similar one to the dress she loves or if you’re dead set on that dress ask her but I wouldn’t expect a positive outcome since it sounds like she is head over heels for this dress.
Post # 11
I think the question is to ask yourself how would you feel if she did it to you? I’m guessing you’d probably be upset by it. Any other dress may be not a big deal but I’d think this one would be.
Post # 12
If you really want to try it on. If you really think that there’s even the slightest possibility that you might want to buy this dress after you’ve tried it on. Talk to your BM. She deserves that much I think. It’s hard – but like many others said there are millions of other dresses out there so unless you really want to give this dress a go then I’d leave it and walk away.
Post # 13
I wouldn’t do it!
My GFs mean so much more to me than a dress that I would let her have the option of that dress and move on! There are so many dresses out there I am sure you will find one you love!
Post # 14
Personally, I’d avoid the dress like the plague.
Post # 15
Dont do it. Its kinda like men. There are plenty of fish in the sea.
Post # 16
I agree … don’t try on the dress. There are so many choices out there! You’ll find something else you love without jeopardizing your friend’s feelings!