Is it wrong/weird to wear your wedding band before legally married?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’d save it so you have something new to wear to commemorate your marriage.  I think it’s a bit odd.  It should mean more than just being pretty!

Edit:  That came out way wrong.  I know it still means so much, but I really think you should save it!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Mine’s been sitting in the box waiting for the day I get to put it on. I think it’s something that symbolizes the actual union and it gives me a little something to look forward to. I know my guy’s been dying to put his ring on, he asked me yesterday “do i really have to wait?” I said “yep!”

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think the wait is worth it!

I just have one ring that I wear now that I’m married. When he proposed, he gave me my center diamond in a solitaire setting. A few months before the wedding, we turned that in to a jeweler so she could make my ring. I just wore a placeholder simple stackable sort of ring until our wedding day. It made it SO much more special on that day to finally wear my ring and know that we were married!

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

It’s worth the wait…you really want it to symbolize your marriage and I think it loses a bit of that if you wear it beforehand.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper

I would say “weird,” because it’s supposed to symbolize that you’re married, but you aren’t yet, but not “wrong,” because that suggests it’s morally wrong, and as long as you’re not trying to make anyone think you’re already married, you’re not trying to deceive, so I wouldn’t use a moral word for it. But I don’t see any good reason TO wear it before the marriage, so since there’s a good reason why not, I wouldn’t suggest it.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MademoiselleL:  +1

Exactly what I was going to say 🙂

I really wanted to wear mine before the big day because I loved it so much, but in retrospect I’m so glad I didn’t.  I think it would be like wearing your e-ring before you get engaged, it might make it feel less special to start wearing the ring.

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It would have taken away that special feeling when he slipped it on my finger at the wedding.

A wedding ring is to symbolize you are married . You waited to wear the engagement ring till you were engaged. Why not wait to wear the wedding ring until you are married?

 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

FI wears his ring most of the time.  Our wedding date doesn’t happen to coincide with how much our relationship is a marriage to us.  He started wearing it once we felt like we had a marriage, if that makes any weird hippy sense at all.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

My band is waiting patiently (ok not so much!) in its box.  I do slip it on from time to time, just to get a feel for it and such. 😉

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@jdhall89:  My fiance is just like yours! He feels our relationship is no less of a commitment than a marriage so he’s been wearing his wedding band since we’ve been engaged.

 

I wear my band to work because the e-ring isn’t appropriate in a setting where I’m putting gloves on and off all day long.

 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Have fun! Life is short!

I definitely wore my wedding band out occasionally before getting married. And I would put it on at home when I had to work all weekend and needed the cheer-up. 🙂 it was still really awesome to put it on at our wedding 🙂

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@TFish:  I’ve done it twice! Wore it out shopping and then last night when my MOH and the BM were over for drinks tee hee

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

When I picked up my wedding ring from the jeweller, I wore it in the car and into one shop. To me it felt really wrong. The moment you see your wedding ring on at the ceremony and afterwards is an amazing feeling, and totally worth waiting for! I went to a hens party and saw the b2b wearing her wedding ring because ‘it was safer on then left somewhere’. All us girls thought Wtf lol

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